Many people walk around in darkness believing that the only way out is to kill themselves. I don’t believe that. In fact, I think suicide takes away choice which may feel more imprisoning than thinking you have no choice in the first place.
You usually don’t discuss suicidal thoughts with others. And because of that, they fester inside. Often the people around you have no clue what’s going on with you until it’s too late.
I personally don’t believe suicidal thoughts in themselves are necessarily unhealthy*. In fact, I believe they can be a good way to use your brain the way it was designed:
To consider all outcomes of a situation, good, bad and ugly. Your brain appreciates that it has a choice.
What if you’re in a relationship where you need an emotional connection from someone else but they don’t seem to be in the same space as you? Sometimes the one you love will come home after a long day and you just want to shower them with love, but they don’t seem to want to shower you back.
Is there something wrong with them?
Is there something dysfunctional about you?
What do you do when you have to face a challenge that you believe you’re prepared for, but fail instead?
The feelings of failure can be debilitating, especially when you’ve spent a lot of time and energy working on self-improvement. It can feel like you’ve taken 10 steps backwards. Learning comes with the challenge of applying what you’ve learned, so expect challenges to be just more than you think you’re prepared for.
Can you commit to a decision? How do you know if you’re making the right decision?
Follow your heart is great advice… if you even know what’s in your heart. [Read more…]