Sexual and physical abuse survivors develop an abused mindset which they take into relationships. This mindset sets them up to be strung along and tolerate bad behavior. Often, former abuse victims end up with abusers in intimate relationships. [Read more…]
When is a bad thing a good thing? When is a good thing bad? How attached are you to outcomes? I tell a quick Zen Buddhist parable that might make you think twice about the stressors in the world today, especially with the heated political climate and growing fears of what might happen next. Not everything is as it appears. [Read more…]
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I was told that what I experienced as a child is considered a sexual violation (an enema at 7 years old or so). It was prescribed by a doctor and administered by a member of my family. It sounds like a completely legitimate medical procedure that should have only caused a minor discomfort. [Read more…]
Are you at a job that feels like you are being dominated or controlled? Is there a way out of this without quitting? There may be. I get a response from a listener who wrote before who took my advice for her about her work situation and everything turned out for the better. Controlling bosses no longer drove her mad. What keeps you at work you don’t like anyway? What’s motivating you to stay miserable?
Also, what is it with depression? Why does depression kick in so hard and why is it so hard to get back out once you’re in it? No joy, no pain, no feeling at all – suicidal thoughts can come into play and sometimes you’re so apathetic you don’t even care about that. There is a small door, or portal, out of depression.
In Ask Paul, I read a letter from someone who can’t stop obsessing over her boyfriend’s friendship with his ex-girlfriends, and hates it when he talks about other girls in general. And finally I end the show with a few words on emotionally disconnect people. Many of my coaching clients are married to them!
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