Not everyone is going to like what you bring to the table. Sometimes people have high expectations of you and you don’t deliver causing them to have a critical view of you. Is this your fault or the fault of the person who set up expectations that you couldn’t meet? I read a critical review of The Overwhelmed Brain and talk about that very thing today. They’re not always “haters” but they can ruin our day.
I also talk about gurus, preachers and god-like teachers and hope I don’t fit into any of those categories above. Every time I’m open, honest and vulnerable, it helps me heal which is why I’m so open on the show. If anything is repressed in you, it needs to come out. When you lock the doors to your emotional core, you don’t feel the pain but you’re also blocking the good stuff too.
And how do you know if it’s time for a divorce? You need to assess the past to determine the future. Has there been any progress? Have you been any happier? Has your partner made any improvement? Have things gotten better? If the answer is no, the answer will likely be no. No progress up to this point shows no progress in the future. As you go forward in your relationship, if nothing has changed, nothing will change. Nothing will ever get better if nothing has gotten better and nothing will ever change as long as you stay together.
Finally, I talk about the decision to stay or leave. When you’re in a relationship and you’re thinking about splitting up, breaking up, or divorce, take out the fear out of the question and then ask yourself what the decision is. Regret only plays a part if you base your decision on fear.
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