Judging others is a sign of something you’re struggling with or haven’t healed from internally. It is anger, sadness, or some other bad feeling that you haven’t yet processed that is coming out and being directed at other people. [Read more…]
When I was first getting to know my girlfriend, she told me about her relationship with her ex. She said that they were the best of friends, so it only made sense that developing that friendship into a romantic relationship would enhance what they had and bring them even closer.
After several years of emotional abuse and a bitter divorce, she left that relationship a shell of her former self.
Emotionally abusive people know exactly how to be a good friend. They show up when you need them. They say all the right things. They appear to be genuinely kind and generous to you and the rest of the world.
Tune in to every other New Year’s podcast if you want to hear about resolutions. I’d rather talk about something you can think about the entire year when it comes to improving your life. Today’s episode is all about compatibility and how you can look at any problem in life and narrow it down to a compatibility issue. Sometimes taking out the emotional part of the equation can be helpful if you want to follow the life you want to create for yourself.
I realize emotions are what drive us and motivate us and make us whole, but what if your emotions are also what keep you exactly where you are? Are you fighting against the current to try and make things better? Are you stuck? Is your partner compatible with you? Does he or she complimentary or quite the opposite? What about your job? What about that car you drive around, is that compatible?
Today’s episode is all about the philosophy for living life this whole next year. Follow it and maybe you’ll find yourself taking steps that support you instead of ones that hold you back.
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Jealousy is a multi-faceted beast that can motivate you to say or do things that you may not normally say or do. It involves many emotions and can run (and ruin) your life if you don’t address the real reasons you get jealous.
Sometimes a fantasy is created in your head and you become jealous based on what may not even exist. Other times, there is hard data to prove that what you’re jealous about is real and should be investigated further (or acted upon). Is there a good reason to get jealous?
Is there a way to heal from this feeling? I drill into jealousy quite a bit in this episode.
In segment two, I read a letter from someone who asks why the holidays bring out the worst in people. So many families get together and so many of those get-togethers can be quite dysfunctional. Is there that one person in your family that just seems to ruin the moment?
It can be hard to honor yourself in front of people who’ve known a version of you all their life, especially when you’ve done a lot of inner work. Can you be in integrity with yourself even in front of your toughest crowd: Family?
During the conclusion of the show, I talk about a letter that I received from someone who takes responsibility for his father’s debt because he believes if he hadn’t been born, his father wouldn’t be in debt. So he now holds the guilt of being a burden to his father. That sounds like something we need to heal right away!
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What do you do when your partner wants to spend more time away from home than with you? Is that a sign that there’s something wrong in the relationship? Is there a more serious issue, perhaps they don’t feel safe with you?
In the first segment, I read a letter from a man who missed his fiance’. She would go out drinking with friends and family and he would be home alone trying not to be offended or hurt. As she spent less time at home, he got more concerned but also gave her the space she asked for. Soon, the wedding was called off and she was moving out.
What went wrong? What could he have done differently? [Read more…]