Many people walk around in darkness believing that the only way out is to kill themselves. I don’t believe that. In fact, I think suicide takes away choice which may feel more imprisoning than thinking you have no choice in the first place.
Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external.
Internally, you can feel guilt for something you’ve said or done. Externally, you can feel the shame by being the recipient of other people’s judging and blaming. In this episode, a listener asks me the difference between the two so I do my best to explain how I see it. [Read more…]
You usually don’t discuss suicidal thoughts with others. And because of that, they fester inside. Often the people around you have no clue what’s going on with you until it’s too late.
I personally don’t believe suicidal thoughts in themselves are necessarily unhealthy*. In fact, I believe they can be a good way to use your brain the way it was designed:
To consider all outcomes of a situation, good, bad and ugly. Your brain appreciates that it has a choice.
What if you’re in a relationship where you need an emotional connection from someone else but they don’t seem to be in the same space as you? Sometimes the one you love will come home after a long day and you just want to shower them with love, but they don’t seem to want to shower you back.
Is there something wrong with them?
Is there something dysfunctional about you?
In the March 5th, 2017 episode of The Overwhelmed Brain, I tackled the ultimate challenge: The General Feeling of Unwell Being. Like a cloud of misery that follows you throughout life.
What inspired that episode was a letter I received from a woman who wrote to me that said she went to her workplace counselor who told her: “You have too many problems, we can’t help you.”