Sexual and physical abuse survivors develop an abused mindset which they take into relationships. This mindset sets them up to be strung along and tolerate bad behavior. Often, former abuse victims end up with abusers in intimate relationships. [Read more…]
When is a bad thing a good thing? When is a good thing bad? How attached are you to outcomes? I tell a quick Zen Buddhist parable that might make you think twice about the stressors in the world today, especially with the heated political climate and growing fears of what might happen next. Not everything is as it appears. [Read more…]
Is love enough? Will it overcome anything that happens in your life?
Financial struggles, family problems, arguments, abuse and more… will your faith in love be enough to get you through the tough times? I read a letter from a young man who wonders if love is enough to get through anything. To add a bit of challenge on top of that, what if that love is only one-sided? [Read more…]
When I was first getting to know my girlfriend, she told me about her relationship with her ex. She said that they were the best of friends, so it only made sense that developing that friendship into a romantic relationship would enhance what they had and bring them even closer.
After several years of emotional abuse and a bitter divorce, she left that relationship a shell of her former self.
Emotionally abusive people know exactly how to be a good friend. They show up when you need them. They say all the right things. They appear to be genuinely kind and generous to you and the rest of the world.
Donations are used for the prevention of child sexual abuse and healing programs for survivors
I was told that what I experienced as a child is considered a sexual violation (an enema at 7 years old or so). It was prescribed by a doctor and administered by a member of my family. It sounds like a completely legitimate medical procedure that should have only caused a minor discomfort. [Read more…]