Many people walk around in darkness believing that the only way out is to kill themselves. I don’t believe that. In fact, I think suicide takes away choice which may feel more imprisoning than thinking you have no choice in the first place.
What if you’re in a relationship where you need an emotional connection from someone else but they don’t seem to be in the same space as you? Sometimes the one you love will come home after a long day and you just want to shower them with love, but they don’t seem to want to shower you back.
Is there something wrong with them?
Is there something dysfunctional about you?
Are you walking around with an undertone of fear, anxiety, panic, or nervousness? What do you feel when nothing in general is happening in your life? What’s your balance point or “homeostatic state”?
When an uncomfortable or sad cloud follows you around all the time, it’s hard to enjoy life. Especially because all the decisions you make are based on a foundation of this “uncomfortableness”.
When obsessive and intrusive thoughts won’t go away, what can you do? You might feel better knowing that won’t mean a thing in a 100 years, but if resolving them isn’t that easy for you, then let me take you through a series of steps that break them apart and repackage them in a way that might just help you deal with yours.
When is a bad thing a good thing? When is a good thing bad? How attached are you to outcomes? I tell a quick Zen Buddhist parable that might make you think twice about the stressors in the world today, especially with the heated political climate and growing fears of what might happen next. Not everything is as it appears. [Read more…]