When obsessive and intrusive thoughts won’t go away, what can you do? You might feel better knowing that won’t mean a thing in a 100 years, but if resolving them isn’t that easy for you, then let me take you through a series of steps that break them apart and repackage them in a way that might just help you deal with yours.
When is a bad thing a good thing? When is a good thing bad? How attached are you to outcomes? I tell a quick Zen Buddhist parable that might make you think twice about the stressors in the world today, especially with the heated political climate and growing fears of what might happen next. Not everything is as it appears. [Read more…]
Judging others is a sign of something you’re struggling with or haven’t healed from internally. It is anger, sadness, or some other bad feeling that you haven’t yet processed that is coming out and being directed at other people. [Read more…]
One of the hardest things to get over is a breakup or loss of someone we love. When my wife left me, I was devastated! I was completely in shock and had no idea what to do. I actually fell on the floor crying like a baby. That’s embarrassing to admit, but I bet you understand what that’s like.
I felt truly loved and cherished by her. She was someone who finally understood me and loved me unconditionally and I was losing her. I was angry and sad and felt like I was being abandoned.
I felt hopeless.
I also felt like I was the only one who believed in marriage. How could she throw it all away? Why not work harder at this? I thought, “Isn’t marriage important to you?” [Read more…]
If you decide to stay in a relationship where you know infidelity is happening, are you being abused or are you abusing yourself? [Read more…]