When is a bad thing a good thing? When is a good thing bad? How attached are you to outcomes? I tell a quick Zen Buddhist parable that might make you think twice about the stressors in the world today, especially with the heated political climate and growing fears of what might happen next. Not everything is as it appears. [Read more…]
When I was first getting to know my girlfriend, she told me about her relationship with her ex. She said that they were the best of friends, so it only made sense that developing that friendship into a romantic relationship would enhance what they had and bring them even closer.
After several years of emotional abuse and a bitter divorce, she left that relationship a shell of her former self.
Emotionally abusive people know exactly how to be a good friend. They show up when you need them. They say all the right things. They appear to be genuinely kind and generous to you and the rest of the world.
Friendships are created and can last a lifetime, but they can also disintegrate, never to be rekindled. What makes a friendship? How do you know if your friends are truly the ones that will be there with you and for you through all the good and bad times?
In segment 2, I talk about the warning signs and paying attention to patterns of your suspicions about your partner’s behavior, especially if they’ve betrayed you or lied to you in the past.
During the conclusion of the show, I talk a little about trust and how the innocent and naive of us can get scammed or “duped” over and over again in relationships.
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Jealousy is a multi-faceted beast that can motivate you to say or do things that you may not normally say or do. It involves many emotions and can run (and ruin) your life if you don’t address the real reasons you get jealous.
Sometimes a fantasy is created in your head and you become jealous based on what may not even exist. Other times, there is hard data to prove that what you’re jealous about is real and should be investigated further (or acted upon). Is there a good reason to get jealous?
Is there a way to heal from this feeling? I drill into jealousy quite a bit in this episode.
In segment two, I read a letter from someone who asks why the holidays bring out the worst in people. So many families get together and so many of those get-togethers can be quite dysfunctional. Is there that one person in your family that just seems to ruin the moment?
It can be hard to honor yourself in front of people who’ve known a version of you all their life, especially when you’ve done a lot of inner work. Can you be in integrity with yourself even in front of your toughest crowd: Family?
During the conclusion of the show, I talk about a letter that I received from someone who takes responsibility for his father’s debt because he believes if he hadn’t been born, his father wouldn’t be in debt. So he now holds the guilt of being a burden to his father. That sounds like something we need to heal right away!
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The emotional healing journey consists of many ups and downs. A listener asks me how I managed to get through my journey and what I can share with others on what to expect. Whether you’re starting your healing journey from scratch or still on a hot path of learning, healing and growing, there’s always more to learn. I talk about what it takes to honor your boundaries in a healthy way (instead of waiting until you blow up), and recognizing patterns in yourself that may point back to emotional wounds from the past.
What are your results over and over again? Are you succeeding in life or failing miserably?