Follow your heart is great advice… if you even know what’s in your heart. [Read more…]
If you aren’t a childhood sexual abuse survivor, you know one.
Survivors of childhood sexual abuse may not even be aware that they are a survivor. I had no clue that what I went through as a child, the trauma of receiving an enema at 7 years old, was considered a sexual violation. It was prescribed by a doctor and administered by a member of my family so it sounded like a completely legitimate medical procedure that should have only caused a minor discomfort.
Making a bad first impression is not necessarily your fault. You could be well dressed, have a great hair day, good breath, and even the best personality, but that mole behind your ear makes them think of their mean uncle and suddenly their first impression of you is that you aren’t trustworthy and will hurt them. Quite a jump, but this happens quite a bit.
I talk about a first impression a listener got with this show and how he criticized over 170 episodes by listening to one 15 minute segment. What do you do when that one person criticizes you? How do you not feel the emotional pain behind such a thing?
In the second segment, I answer a message from a woman who is experiencing debilitating pain and is fighting her way to feeling better. She used to be active and on stage, and now she is jobless and lives with her father. Not only is there physical pain, but also suffering through embarrassment of her circumstances. She lies to friends just so they don’t know her situation.
Finally, I respond to a letter from someone who feels almost ashamed for staying with a toxic person, and she’s afraid to leave because “What if I can’t find a good man?” I think her focus needs to change. Depending on where you focus, you’ll either stay where you are or make the changes you need to get out of the rut you’re in.
The Overwhelmed Brain is much more enjoyable when you tell two friends, and they tell two friends, and they tell two friends, and so on and so on, and so on.
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Why do we fall off course so easily? When you prioritize tasks that take your time away from the things you want to accomplish, you fall back farther and farther until you are no longer making progress. In fact, you might even end up going backwards. Sometimes you are not in alignment with a bigger vision for yourself. The reason is because you might actually have a value hidden under the surface that you didn’t even know was there.
Also, is it necessary to forgive others? Learning that forgiveness is all about what’s going on inside of you is the first step to healing. The second step is accepting others for who they are today. Doesn’t mean you have to keep them around though!
Finally, what do you do when you have generalized anxiety, or what one listener asked about: Health Anxiety. Anxiety is such a prevalent condition for so many sufferers… it’s time to get to a better place inside ourselves so that it isn’t so intrusive.
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Being in abusive relationship of any kind, especially where you have a dependency on the abuser for one reason or another leaves you in a tough spot. Can you leave and still be okay, or are you so dependent that leaving will put you in a worse situation? This is a tough position to be in so what do you do?
Also, sometimes you reach the limits of practicality and have to explore deeper, alternative forms of emotional or physical pain control. You may even step into things a bit outside your belief system. After all, once you open your mind to being open to anything, opportunities present themselves.
Finally, when someone desperately wants you back, is it a good decision to take them back? “You complete me” is sometimes laughed about as a quote from a movie, but some take it seriously and believe they actually do need someone to complete them. Is that healthy? Maybe not so much.
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