There’s a spiritual or philosophical correlation between an event that happened to you in your past and what is happening to you today. You may not recognize the significance of your behavior today, but when you are able to make the connection between present behavior and prior emotional events, it’s like plugging a lamp into a socket and watching light fill the room. The circuit between the past and the present becomes linked and negative emotions can diminish or disappear. It sounds a bit “out there” but there is a process to go through if you want to try it out yourself. [Read more…]
Giving can feel so good, but receiving can too so why do so many people have trouble receiving? Do you reject gifts or other offers? If so, why would you take the honor to give away from the giver? If you’ve not thought about it like that before, this segment is for you.
In segment two, I read a letter from a woman who feels like she’s wasted three years of her life with her emotionally abusive boyfriend. She is no longer in that abusive relationship, but still feels the pain of the loss and the regret of the decisions she made. I highlight just what there is to be grateful for in this situation and talk about the process of self love and compassion. In segment three, a woman holds a secret from her boyfriend. She kissed another man and doesn’t want to tell him because he is “blissfully unaware” a woman kissed someone outside of her relationship and now holds on to the fact that she cheated on him because she doesn’t want to make him feel bad. Who she’ll be in the relationship will be who she is until she gets over it or expresses it. If you decide to not tell, can you live with the guilt. And do you want him to live with a continuous liar. Whatever your values tell you to do is what you should end up doing otherwise you won’t be happy.
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What is acceptable to you and what is not? What is considered self-sustaining and what is selfish? I read an email from someone who’s in constant battle in his mind, unsure if he’s honoring his personal boundaries or just being completely self serving. He also gets into a debate in his mind and over analyzes to the point of indecision. There’s a way to decide, and it involves the question: What what you do if you were completely fearless or not afraid of the consequences? That will usually give you the right answer that honors your boundaries.
In segment two, I read a message from a woman who’s mom never stepped in to help her kids when they were being abused. She’s forgiven her abuser, but not her mom. In fact, she feel abused by her mom even today because of the narcissistic tendencies she has. She’s not sure how to honor herself with her mom. Her emotional pendulum is stuck on one side and she hasn’t let it swing to the other side to find out what would happen if she truly honored herself with her mom. When dealing with difficult parents, it’s best to come from a place of “I love you, but this is a problem”. It’s honoring from love.
For segment three, I talk about obsessing over your partner’s history, whether it’s all the great sex your partner had (and you feel insecure about it) or even the abuse they experienced (and you are overly empathetic and depressed about it). Obsessing over your partner’s past keeps you in the past and keeps you from improving yourself to be the best person you can be in the relationship.
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What you value in life overflows into your business, relationships and everything else. I’ve talked about values before, but I dive in a little deeper in this episode when I am interviewed by someone who I helped get into alignment with their values.
Join me and Amber Hurdle of the Bombshell Business Podcast. She’ll share how our work together brought her into focus about her business so that she knew the path that she needed to take. Once you know your values, decisions are a lot easier to make.
To learn your values, download the Stop Self-Sabotage worksheet today!
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I was told that what I experienced as a child is considered a sexual violation (an enema at 7 years old or so). It was prescribed by a doctor and administered by a member of my family. It sounds like a completely legitimate medical procedure that should have only caused a minor discomfort. [Read more…]