Many people walk around in darkness believing that the only way out is to kill themselves. I don’t believe that. In fact, I think suicide takes away choice which may feel more imprisoning than thinking you have no choice in the first place.
What if you’re in a relationship where you need an emotional connection from someone else but they don’t seem to be in the same space as you? Sometimes the one you love will come home after a long day and you just want to shower them with love, but they don’t seem to want to shower you back.
Is there something wrong with them?
Is there something dysfunctional about you?
What do you do when you have to face a challenge that you believe you’re prepared for, but fail instead?
The feelings of failure can be debilitating, especially when you’ve spent a lot of time and energy working on self-improvement. It can feel like you’ve taken 10 steps backwards. Learning comes with the challenge of applying what you’ve learned, so expect challenges to be just more than you think you’re prepared for.
Are you walking around with an undertone of fear, anxiety, panic, or nervousness? What do you feel when nothing in general is happening in your life? What’s your balance point or “homeostatic state”?
When an uncomfortable or sad cloud follows you around all the time, it’s hard to enjoy life. Especially because all the decisions you make are based on a foundation of this “uncomfortableness”.
Sexual and physical abuse survivors develop an abused mindset which they take into relationships. This mindset sets them up to be strung along and tolerate bad behavior. Often, former abuse victims end up with abusers in intimate relationships. [Read more…]