When obsessive and intrusive thoughts won’t go away, what can you do? You might feel better knowing that won’t mean a thing in a 100 years, but if resolving them isn’t that easy for you, then let me take you through a series of steps that break them apart and repackage them in a way that might just help you deal with yours.
When is a bad thing a good thing? When is a good thing bad? How attached are you to outcomes? I tell a quick Zen Buddhist parable that might make you think twice about the stressors in the world today, especially with the heated political climate and growing fears of what might happen next. Not everything is as it appears. [Read more…]
All this personal growth work is great and all, but you have to actually do the work in order for your life to get better. The main reason is because you need feedback from your environment. You test, observe, test again, take action. You learn through your results. And in order to change your results, your desire has to overcome the results you’re getting now. If that happens, your life will change a lot easier.
Also, I read a letter from a mom who feels paralyzed by dysfunctional family members and is scared her child is going to pick up or become dysfunctional because of their bad behavior. Family can sometimes be toxic, especially around children. Children know right from wrong, even when they’re exposed to toxic stuff, but as long as they have a healthy role model, sometimes the toxicity from others doesn’t rub off on them. Be the best role model you can be and your child will do much better because of it.
Finally, I talk about the subtle change in your thought can lead to a good outcome or a bad one.
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There’s a program running in the background of your mind that drives almost all of your behavior. You could call that your philosophy.
Your philosophy is made up of all the beliefs and assumptions that you have about the world. Many of these beliefs and assumptions are never questioned, just followed – sometimes blindly.
The role you play in any relationship can either complement the person you are with, amplify the relationship, or be a repellent. When forming intimate relationships, the term “opposites attract” is more true than people think. Even in a business environment where there is a manager / subordinate relationship, usually opposites (at least in the form of masculine and feminine) play a huge part on whether they’ll get along or not.
However, when it comes to deep, strong friendships, “opposites attract” isn’t typically true. It’s here where finding an equal “energy” in someone can lead to a lifelong friendship. We all have both masculine and feminine aspects of ourselves, and knowing which one to utilize in each situation can lead to a much more rewarding, and fulfilling life. [Read more…]