Sexual and physical abuse survivors develop an abused mindset which they take into relationships. This mindset sets them up to be strung along and tolerate bad behavior. Often, former abuse victims end up with abusers in intimate relationships. [Read more…]
When obsessive and intrusive thoughts won’t go away, what can you do? You might feel better knowing that won’t mean a thing in a 100 years, but if resolving them isn’t that easy for you, then let me take you through a series of steps that break them apart and repackage them in a way that might just help you deal with yours.
When is a bad thing a good thing? When is a good thing bad? How attached are you to outcomes? I share a quick Zen Buddhist parable that might make you think twice about the stressors in the world today, especially with the heated political climate and growing fears of what might happen next.
Not everything is as it appears. [Read more…]
All this personal growth work is great and all, but you have to actually do the work in order for your life to get better. The main reason is because you need feedback from your environment. You test, observe, test again, take action. You learn through your results. And in order to change your results, your desire has to overcome the results you’re getting now. If that happens, your life will change a lot easier.
Also, I read a letter from a mom who feels paralyzed by dysfunctional family members and is scared her child is going to pick up or become dysfunctional because of their bad behavior. Family can sometimes be toxic, especially around children. Children know right from wrong, even when they’re exposed to toxic stuff, but as long as they have a healthy role model, sometimes the toxicity from others doesn’t rub off on them. Be the best role model you can be and your child will do much better because of it.
Finally, I talk about the subtle change in your thought can lead to a good outcome or a bad one.
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I hate setting goals, so I had to figure out how I could get what I want in life without following the standard goal-setting steps we’re always taught. Just writing down a goal makes me cringe. But why?
Well I’m not one of those highly organized people full of energy, so that could be half of it. But it’s not the whole picture.
In this article I’m going to share with you how to get what you want without setting goals. If you hate setting goals like I do I think this post will give you a lot of relief.