If you have a hard time saying no to people, it’s time to rewire your brain.

Saying yes to a request for your time, when you really want to say no, is allowing someone to cross your boundaries. You feel it inside and out. A question comes out of someone’s mouth, and you wholeheartedly want to say no, but something happens inside you, and you get this overwhelming fear that if you say no, something bad might happen.

Perhaps your friend will be upset with you. Maybe your relative will feel dejected. Even your spouse might go wide-eyed, wondering where this new “attitude” came from. [Read more…]