About The Overwhelmed Brain
The Overwhelmed Brain blog and podcast is a personal growth portal designed for critical thinkers. In other words, put away your crystals, throw your affirmations in the junk drawer, and start believing it’s OK not to think positively all the time.
Life is an ever-changing journey filled with thoughts, emotions, and an unending series of unpredictable behaviors. I give you specific, purposeful steps to help improve your life, and none of the same old, rehashed personal growth teachings you may be used to.
I realize I sound cynical. But let me follow that up with this:
I am not against anything that works.
If psychics help you become fulfilled, then keep using psychics. If energy healing cures your ailments, then keep using energy healing.
Always do what works for you, and not necessarily what you’re told to do.
But do it armed with knowledge.
“Critical thinking” is about questioning your own beliefs. When you question what you believe in, you either reinforce what you know to be true, or find out the truth – causing you to make better decisions for yourself. Either way, you win! You will improve regardless of the outcome.
And when you combine critical thinking with personal growth, you not only learn and grow faster, you understand how to repeat the process, and teach it to others. Learning about human behavior in general is a fascinating, life-long process. But learning how to repeat successful behavior is a recipe for happiness.
So, whether you are curious about the complexities of relationships, mystified by the unpredictability of human behavior, want to know more about mindsets and emotional states, or just want some plain old-fashioned personal growth advice without all the fluff, it’s here.
From human behavior to communication. From work and relationships to stress and health. There’s always an interesting episode to listen to. You are amazing! So if you ever need a reminder, just tune in.
Back in 2005, I went through a breakup of a 13 year relationship. It was quite a shock to my system. One night she told me she no longer loved me. The next day, she moved out. And shortly afterwards, I fell into a depression.
I got hit pretty hard. I didn’t realize how much I took being in a relationship for granted. I didn’t see any of the warning signs. The first few months of my depression, I was just trying to stay afloat. I didn’t really have my own identity without her in my life. So I wandered around awhile.
I kept working, but it was always dark and lonely inside my head. I thought the best thing to do would be to find someone else with which to share my life.
Well, I met someone and we hit it off right away. She lived 3000 miles away, so I had no clue how it was going to work out. But, after we met in person, we knew we had to be together (none of this long-distance relationship stuff). So a few months later, I moved to California to be with her.
Well, after living together a while, we realized there was this one big problem: I was still depressed!
And it was hitting me pretty hard, which made her think she might be better off without me. So one night, she told me she wanted to leave. That news caused me to break down completely. And suddenly, everything I hated about my life came out in tears.
However, something shifted in me that night. All the crying and talking helped me release so much, that I felt quite peaceful afterwards. It wasn’t over, by any means, as I was still depressed. But I realized that all that expressing about what was truly on my mind, made a huge impact on both the thoughts in my head, and my emotional well-being.
So I started exploring personal growth, psychology, and communication. I learned, and became certified in, brain sciences such as hypnosis and neuro-linguistics. I learned meditation techniques on how to clear my mind, and be present. And, as I was healing myself, I learned how to communicate with others in such a way that they would also transform.
Unfortunately, my marriage did not survive my personal growth journey. By the time I worked through many of my issues, it was too late. She left.
The hardest part about the end of my marriage was that we had separated to work on ourselves to be better people for each other when we got back together. And as my issues were disappearing, which were one of the main causes of the problems in our relationship, her love for me was also disappearing. And as I grew closer and more in love with her than ever before, she told me she was no longer in love with me at all.
This was a true test of everything I learned about myself. It seems that at the peak of any type of personal growth and development is a challenge that tests just how much we’ve actually “evolved”.
Sometimes the true shift into something greater involves the loss of something great.
I’ve lost some great things in my life, which has shaped me into the person I’ve always wanted to be. So today, I am more at peace with just about everything that happens to and around me. I’ve learned to stay mindful and present. And it’s rare that I feel stress or overwhelm because I address what causes me to feel that way in the moment.
I’ve gotten more in touch with my emotions, and have learned to balance both the nurturing, receptive, feminine side of me, and the assertive, confident, masculine side (we all have both within us). It is this balance, along with staying in the ‘now’, that has brought more balance into my life than anything ever has.
I don’t claim perfection or enlightenment, just more awareness today than I had yesterday and to learn more tomorrow than I know today.
My purpose with The Overwhelmed Brain is to help you break through your negative stream of thoughts to empower you to make decisions that are right for you. I do this through the podcast, coaching sessions, books and worksheets, and the blog.
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You Are Amazing.
Host of The Overwhelmed Brain podcast
Personal Empowerment Coach