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I recently received a letter from a woman who cheated on her husband. However, there was nothing wrong in her current relationship. They were madly in love, and their sex life was amazing. But, she cheated anyway. Shortly after, she felt awful about it and fessed up to him. (read more…)
You went through all the healing, growing, learning and evolving you could do, and may have even given your partner the ultimatum to shape up or ship out, so that your relationship had no choice but to shift into something new or fall apart completely.
You’ll never go back to the way it was. Is the relationship now “saved”? (read more…)
I often work with clients who’ve been to couple’s therapy but are still stuck where they are in the relationship. In fact, most of the time one partner is “fine” while the other is not. I’ve often found that the one who is not fine is also the one who is trying harder to save the relationship.
Sometimes I am puzzled when I see that the “fine” partner doesn’t see anything wrong, and points the finger at the other person.
“She’s the one with the problem!” or
“He’s the one that gets upset!”
If comments like that have ever come out of your partner’s mouth during a therapy session, then you are most likely in a troubling situation. (read more…)
I received a letter from a listener that was dealing with a defensive person at work. Her coworker would get very defensive whenever anyone would talk about “controversial subjects” around her. The letter writer didn’t tell me exactly which controversial subjects were being discussed, but I could only assume that they were the typical ones that most people have a very staunch opinion on. (read more…)
Because they believe they won’t experience pain. Of course, that also means they won’t experience pleasure (for the most part) either. The resistance of some emotions typically means the prevention of both the good and bad. But then what? What kind of life are you living where you feel very little at all?
When I was in my first long-term relationship, during the last couple years I found out it was a lot easier to be analytical and calculating than it was to show my anger or fear. That’s because as my girlfriend was falling out of love with me and I had thoughts and feelings about her that I chose not to share. If I shared them, “she might get mad and leave me.” But in reality, she was on the way out anyway. (read more…)