A Practice in Mindfulness

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Practicing mindfulness has a lot of advantages that will help you become more alert, more focused, and more likely to finish what you started. I focus a lot on “focus” in this particular episode because we are simply an oversaturated, overstimulated society, and might need a refresher on what it takes to be truly mindful. The more mindful you are, the more successful you’ll be with almost anything you start – mainly because you’ll finish! [Read more…]

10 Life Lessons You Should Already Know – Part 2

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Part 2 of a two-part episode where we talk about the 10 life lessons that, if implemented, lead to peace and fulfillment. So many of us simply live day to day, trying to make the next day as good as the last, or better. The day to day can be fulfilling, or it can be grueling. If it’s the latter, it’s possible that there is a primal need at your deepest level not getting fulfilled. If that’s the case, it will be harder to attain the peace and balance you may be looking for.

This episode covers the second 5 of the lessons, and helps you understand what you may need to focus on to create a happier life for yourself. [Read more…]

10 Life Lessons You Should Already Know – Part 1

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life lessonsPart 1 of a two-part episode where we talk about the 10 life lessons that, if implemented, lead to peace and fulfillment. So many of us simply live day to day, trying to make the next day as good as the last, or better. The day to day can be fulfilling, or it can be grueling. If it’s the latter, it’s possible that there is a primal need at your deepest level not getting fulfilled. If that’s the case, it will be harder to attain the peace and balance you may be looking for.

This episode covers the first 5 of the lessons, and helps you understand what you may need to focus on to create a happier life for yourself. [Read more…]

Angry Every Day! Couples Coaching Session with Michael and Daria

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anger expression couples coachingIn relationships, sometimes there is a constant miscommunication. One person could be up, the other could be down. If one is happy, the other might be sad. And when that never goes away, the relationship wears down, and the love dissolves.

In this episode, I play a live coaching call between Michael and Daria. Since I’m on vacation this week, I didn’t create a solo episode. However, I received permission from Michael and Daria to play their session, so it became a full show.

There are a lot of good lessons in here for relating to others. If you’d like to a fly on the wall for this session, listen in! [Read more…]

Codependency: The Subtle Erosion of Love and Connection

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Codependence is when two or more people fulfill a need for each other that strengthens a dysfunction between them. You usually see this kind of thing between a helper / people-pleaser and a drug addict or an alcoholic. Of course, even someone who is just needy or desperate for attention can be the second half of a codependent relationship. In either case, there is the dysfunction of one person continuing to support the dysfunctional behavior of another. It’s the perfect imbalance of love and energy.

One person gets their needs met more and more, while the other builds resentment, but keeps on giving in to the needs of the other. I figured it was about time I talked about something I am quite familiar with from both sides! [Read more…]

Questioning Your Truths – The Philosophy of Belief

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beliefs and truthThere’s a program running in the background of your mind that drives almost all of your behavior, and that’s called your “philosophy”. Your philosophy is made up of all the beliefs and assumptions that you have about the world. Many of these beliefs and assumptions are never questioned, just followed – sometimes blindly. We dive into the philosophy that drives our decisions and actions in this episode. It might require your thinking cap, but it could be the door you were looking for to help you create and accept the changes you want to make in your life. [Read more…]

Judgment – The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer

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judgment and emotional triggersJudgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship, as it tells the other person that it’s not okay to be themselves. This builds resentment in them, and will eventually crumble even the most intimate relationships. If it doesn’t crumble, then it suffers. Today’s episode is how our triggers form our judgments, and how our judgments can ruin our life if we don’t learn what to do with them.  [Read more…]

Knowing is a box – The Commitment to Open Mindedness

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Have you ever known something to be true, only to find out you were completely wrong? I’ve had arguments with people where half-way through I figured out I was wrong, but I still held my ground because of my commitment to winning. It’s time to learn how to create and keep an open mind so that you are flexible in all of life’s challenges.  “Knowing” something limits what more you can know, but admitting that you don’t know everything opens the the door to endless possibilities.

Sounds like a great topic for discussion!

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Honoring Your Personal Boundaries – Revisited

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What does it take to honor your boundaries and live from that authentic place inside you? Do you earn the respect your deserve? You might be surprised to find out that respect from others happens naturally when you honor yourself and your personal boundaries. Doing this shows the world who you really are, and what behavior is okay, and what is not.

You are worthy and deserve respect. Honor and respect yourself, and you’ll soon find that you are creating the life you want. [Read more…]

Dealing With the Victim Mentality

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There are true victims in the world, then there are chronic complainers who keep themselves in a victimized state, closing the door to progress, healing and growth.

It could have started in childhood, or sprung up when they were older, but those who have a victim mentality know one thing for sure: Nothing ever works out for them.

This belief system keeps them in a rut, and prevents them from seeing options that could be right in front of them.

Are you a self-perpetuating victim? Listen in and find out! [Read more…]

Empowerment Through Vulnerability

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vulnerabilityEmotions rise up from our core self, where we are both most vulnerable and powerful. When we can live from this core place inside of us, we can be authentic. When that happens, we are empowered to be our true selves.

Align your thoughts and feelings with your behavior, and you have a recipe for true success in your life. Step into your power in this episode. [Read more…]

Infidelity – An Overlooked Warning Sign and Healing in the Aftermath

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infidelity and cheatingInfidelity is one of the most painful experiences you can have next to losing a child, at least according to one therapist I talked to. The pain that is created from the betrayal is inevitable, and much healing will be needed in the aftermath. I discuss the one sign you need to pay attention to most when you suspect cheating in your relationship. I also talk about working through and healing in the aftermath.

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Releasing Emotional Triggers in Relationships

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Emotional triggers are the surprises that we get when someone we love, or a situation, causes us to have a reaction that we haven’t processed yet. If you were yelled at as a child, and you attached fear to being yelled at, then you might get triggered as an adult when someone around you as yelling.

Triggers are childhood beliefs that aren’t necessarily true anymore, and need to be addressed to save your relationships. Once you release your old triggers, you can view the world from an entirely different place, instead of through the eyes of a fearful child. [Read more…]

Repressed emotions cause harm to the body

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repressed emotional painThe deepest recesses of our subconscious mind are where our repressed, negative thoughts and emotions linger, causing harm to both our daily thought processes and our body! Want to know why thinking positively doesn’t seem to work sometimes? It’s because we’re holding on to some deeper stuff that needs released. And what happens when you release this stuff? Positive thinking comes naturally. No affirmations needed for today’s episode.

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Practicing Presence in a World of Past Hurts and Future Worries

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Presence is that state where the past doesn’t exist, and the future hasn’t been written. It’s what’s in the now. Eckhart Tolle and many other spiritual teachers talk about it. It’s that place where past hurts and future worries seem to dissolve, so that you can experience what’s really happening instead of the picture your mind is painting of reality.

It’s clarity. And it’s what we’re here to talk about today.
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How to Give to Others Without Giving Up Too Much of Yourself

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giving from compassionGiving doesn’t have to be self-sacrifice, it can be warm and wonderful. But we all have a limit to what we give. Whether we’re talking about money, time or energy, giving comes from two places: Ego and / or Compassion.

Giving from compassion gets instant returns of good feelings. Giving from the ego gets a quick high or a quick low, but nothing long-lasting.

Learning to give to yourself first and foremost is how you give to others. How? Listen and find out!

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The Overwhelmed Brain Celebrates Fifty Episodes: Top Ten Takeaways and Celebratory Moments

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The Overwhelmed BrainLife lessons, flashbacks, audio clips, and lots more in this celebration of 50 episodes. It’s a long one: An hour and 20 minutes, but it covers so much! You’ll hear a few former guests with their wisdom, some of the darker days of The Overwhelmed Brain, a celebration of audio clips and the best part of all: Your learning, growth and healing.

It’s a one of a kind episode, and won’t happen again until episode 100. So enjoy the learnings and fun. And I’m glad to have made it to the golden anniversary of the show. 50 episodes!

You are amazing.

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Ending Suffering and Moving Towards Inner Peace

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suffering Eckhart Tolle PeaceWhat is suffering? Is it the same as pain? Can they be separate, so that any suffering you experience can be diminished or eliminated altogether? Another deep episode where I share some practical steps you can take to stop suffering, and find your path to inner peace. I promise, I only mention meditation once. The rest of it, you may be surprised by.  [Read more…]

That “Blink” Moment and Making The Right Decisions

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The first decision that pops in your mind is what Malcolm Gladwell calls your “blink” moment. It’s that feeling or thought you get before you consciously think about the situation.

Should you trust your blink moments? Are the true answers to life’s challenges in those few milliseconds before conscious thought kicks in? And the real question, can you trust that blink moment, to the exclusion of rational thought?

This is a deep episode, but if you’ve been wanting to learn how to make better and faster decisions, it’s time to make the decision and listen!

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Optimism, Pessimism and Creating the Life You Want

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Optimism and pessimismIt’s okay to be pessimistic, especially if months or years of optimism don’t work. In this episode, we go over the underlying strategies or “programs” you have deep down that motivate you to move toward things you want and away from things you don’t want.

Wait, did I say it’s okay to be pessimistic? Yup. When what you’re doing doesn’t work, do something else. Better yet, be “realistic” to create the most change in your life.

When you figure out what motivates you in life, you’ll figure out how to create the life you want. [Read more…]