How to Deal With Irrational People

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Irrational behavior is one of the most difficult behaviors to deal with. When someone is being irrational, they don’t listen to reason, logic, or even common sense. They are laser focused to fulfill a need. And, until that need is fulfilled, or they snap out of it, they are unpredictable and sometimes even dangerous. In this episode, we talk about some of the ways to communicate, and even “reel in” irrational people, to bring them back to a calmer, more rational state of being.  [Read more...]

Building Self-Esteem and Self-Worth, While Avoiding the Ego Trap

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self-esteemBuilding self-worth is something that happens in childhood, and relies on people and events outside of you, whereas building self-esteem is a culmination of all the years of self-worth, and is something that relies on how you feel about yourself.

Then ego comes in and tries to spoil the road to high self-esteem, but there are ways to build and nurture all three so that you can tackle life a lot easier when the challenges present themselves. [Read more...]

Avoiding and Eliminating Humiliation and Embarrassment

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Fear of embarrassment and going through humiliation set the stage for today’s episode. There are steps you can take to avoid humiliating situations, and steps you can take to squash bad feelings after an embarrassing situation occurs.

Even the embarrassing events of years past can pop up over and over again, especially when people you know keep rehashing it. If you want to stop reliving the past, or get over the shame, or even what you might consider the unforgivable stuff you may have done, this is the episode you don’t want to miss.  [Read more...]

Letting Go of Attachments Part 2

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We talk about letting go of the deeper, emotional attachments we have in our life in this second of a two-part episode. From sentimental attachments, to people. The main focus is about the romantic relationships we can have trouble letting go of.

This is a deep and complex episode, and there are so many ways to approach this sensitive topic. But if you can get beyond the attachments that are holding you back and keeping you down, you will have a deeply fulfilling and happy life.

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Letting Go of Attachments Part 1

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letting go of attachments(This is a transcript of episode 0041)
Today is all about a subject that’s near and dear to my heart. It’s also one of the most powerful things I’ve ever done in my life, in the sense that it has created the most powerful, most positive change.

In fact, I’d go as far to say that if you have never listened to any episode before this, and never listen to any episode after this, this episode will allow you to walk away with the secret to happiness and fulfillment in life. You can’t say that about a lot of things, but I’m confident about this. [Read more...]

How embracing the masculine and feminine in you leads to a fulfilling life

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masculine and feminineThe role you play in any relationship can either complement the person you are with, amplify the relationship, or be a repellent. When forming intimate relationships, the term “opposites attract” is more true than people think. Even in a business environment where there is a manager / subordinate relationship, usually opposites (at least in the form of masculine and feminine) play a huge part on whether they’ll get along or not.

However, when it comes to deep, strong friendships, “opposites attract” isn’t typically true. It’s here where finding an equal “energy” in someone can lead to a lifelong friendship. We all have both masculine and feminine aspects of ourselves, and knowing which one to utilize in each situation can lead to a much more rewarding, and fulfilling life.  [Read more...]

Achieving Fulfillment Through the 6 Human Needs

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6 human needsDo you love what you do? If not, do you feel significant doing it? How about growth and contribution? I talk about how I enjoy what I do because it fulfills all 6 of the human needs Anthony Robbins talks about.

When you can fulfill all of your human needs in your job, hobby, or relationship, you will have an incredibly fulfilling life.

Anthony Robbins talks about the 6 human needs. From his research and exploration of human behavior, he has come up with these needs that every person has in their life. They are Love and Connection, Certainty, Uncertainty or Variety, Significance, Growth, and Contribution. Tony says that we prioritize the ones we need most too. For example, someone might need more love and connection than variety. Someone else may need to feel significant more than the need to be a contributor. [Read more...]

Vulnerability Can Be a Place of Strength

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Many people believe that being vulnerable is a place of weakness or being fragile. Now, I will say that when you open your heart to someone, that is a vulnerable place. Because you are trusting that person with the most precious part of you. You let that person into your personal space. They are inside your castle walls, as I like to call them, and they could honor you and worship you, or they could crush you and steal all of your gold.

So being vulnerable involves trust. When you voluntarily choose to be vulnerable around someone, that is the ultimate in trust. It’s like when a cat lays on his back to show you his belly. He trusts you completely, and is confident that you won’t betray that trust. [Read more...]

The Challenge and Freedom of Forgiveness

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This week’s episode covers the very powerful topic of forgiveness. How powerful is it? Well, some people live with the pain of not forgiving someone their entire life. The thought of letting someone get away with something, or admitting that they are over something, or whatever, can override ones desire to move on and be happy with life.

We’re going to talk about forgiveness today. What is it, really? Is it telling someone else, “You were right, and I was wrong”? Is it showing another person that what they did was forgivable? Is it something else entirely? [Read more...]

Saying “No” To Someone Reveals Their True Nature

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I had to say “no” to someone a few days ago. It wasn’t just a “No, I can’t help you.” It was a, “Hey, we’ve been planning a project together for over a month and a half now, and I know we’re going to have a conference call on Sunday about this project, but I need to bow out. I realize I’m fifty percent of the project, and that without me, you really won’t be able to finish it, at least in a short amount of time, but I gotta back out now.

I’ll tell you, it was hard to click Send. Yeah, I sent an email. But mainly because I really wanted to word it where it conveyed all my thoughts without interruption. In a live call or conversation, you could say one word and the entire conversation could go into an emotional spiral. Tempers can flair, and your message is never heard. The only thing that’s heard is that you are abandoning the other person, and it sounds like you don’t care about them. [Read more...]

Can Your Defense Mechanisms Keep You From Creating the Life You Want?

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I talk about 9 common defense mechanisms we employ in our lives. Most are used as a substitute for full expression of our thoughts and feelings, however some are actually useful.

You may do 1 or 2, or all 9! Regardless, by the time the episode is over, you will understand what they are and what you can do if you find yourself or others doing them. [Read more...]

The Law of Attraction and Critical Thinking

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I don’t believe in the Law of Attraction, at least in the sense that by continuously “sending vibrations out into the universe, they will meet ‘like’ vibrations and attract that thing towards me.” However, I do believe that when you make a firm decision to make something happen in your life, that you will put into motion whatever it takes to make it happen. [Read more...]

Breaking Free of Passive Aggressive Behavior

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Passive aggressive behavior is when we express our anger or upset in the most subtle way possible, typically to avoid confrontation.

When we behave in a passive aggressive manner, we are trying to convey an emotional message in an indirect way. Since the message typically never gets through, the people we are upset at never really know we’re upset!

This leads to misunderstandings. This episode teaches you how to get the message across directly, without starting a battle.

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How to live a more balanced life by accessing your inner strength

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BalanceYou have the strength and resources you need to create the balance that you deserve in your life. But there is a way to achieving balance that many people aren’t aware of. Well, 6 ways in this episode to be exact.

Balance creates more consistent states of happiness, and also allows you to make decisions and take action from a place of power, not fear.

In this episode, we dive into some deeper-level stuff that you may not necessarily have associated with balance. But by the end, you might discover something about yourself that helps you resolve some of the challenges in your life. [Read more...]

10 Things I Learned on My 3100 Mile Road Trip

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3100(This is a transcript from Minutes to Momentum episode number #27)
Today I’m going to talk about what I learned from my 3100 mile road trip from Oregon to New Hampshire. If you didn’t hear, I moved last week, and drove my pickup truck with all my belongings across the US. Fortunately, I am very much a minimalist, so everything I owned fit in my truck nicely.

I’ve had some family catch up time, and have been setting up a temporary studio so I could record the show. Where I’m living now won’t be permanent, but I still had a lot of setup to do. Also, I’m still trying to acclimate myself to an environment I haven’t lived in for about 25 years, so my time has certainly been used up for the past week or so. [Read more...]

Nothing Changes Until You Do with Mike Robbins

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Self-compassion, the effects of negative self-talk, authenticity, and lots of other things is what comes up during my talk with Mike Robbins. Mike just released his new book, Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way, a book that talks about how we relate to ourselves – probably the most important relationship we can have!

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I’m Outta Here! Plant Your Emotional Roots.

Rainbow-RoadsI’ve been packing and cleaning for the last two days, and will be starting my journey from Oregon to New Hampshire either tomorrow or Thursday (haven’t decided yet). A friend asked me about the memories I have here and I couldn’t come up with any really good ones!

I’ve lived here for three years, and made some good friends, but I’ve hardly had any actual “experiences”. In other words, I’ve planted no emotional roots here. While living here, I spent most of my time in the house. Granted, I was saving money, but I missed out on planting those emotional roots. [Read more...]

Episode 0034: Overcoming Invalidation with Remy Chausse

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Invalidation is one of those sometimes-silent destroyers of relationships. When you invalidate someone, you are basically letting them know that they are not worthy of your love and support. When you are being invalidated, you feel like you don’t matter. Eventually, continuous invalidation wears you down and disintegrates your self-confidence, your personal boundaries, and ultimately, your relationship. [Read more...]

Where ever you go is a chance to start again

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Next week I’ll be leaving the wonderful state of Oregon and heading across the country to live near my family.

It’s been many years since I’ve lived near a relative, so I’m looking forward to seeing them and getting to know some of them again from a new place. I am a different person than I was 10 years ago. I’m a different person than I was a month ago even.

My life has taken quite a change in direction. My original thought was to move to San Diego. But plans have changed, and now I’ll be going to the opposite of sand and beach, and heading towards lakes and trees. Hey, not so bad of a sacrifice there! [Read more...]

How Long is Your Runway?

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(This is a transcript from episode 25 of Minutes to Momentum)

Whether you want to quit your job, quit your relationship, move to a new city, state or country, start a new venture, start a new adventure, or follow a passion that doesn’t pay (yet), having a runway will make the transition much easier.

Your “runway” is the length of time and resources you’ll have when you make the decision to do what it is you want to do. [Read more...]