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The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships

How To Make Better Decisions To Get The Outcomes You Want

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If your life is filled with stress and an overall sense of unhappiness, you may be unknowingly making decisions that are hurting you in ways that you don’t even realize.

Picture a funnel for a moment. A funnel can be a great visualization on what happens when you make a decision. The stem (the small opening) represents the choice you have before you. The mouth (the wide part) represents the outcomes that manifest because of those choices.

I like that visualization because a choice stems from a thought that leads to an action that could lead to massive change in your life. Your choice “funnels” out into the world, affecting you and everything in it sometimes. [Read more…]

The General Lies You Tell Yourself and Others to Keep You From Success

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There’s a great lie many of us use throughout life called a quantifier.

A quantifier indicates the quantity of something. Anytime you insert quantifiers in a statement about what you can or can’t do, you may inadvertently limit your capacity to succeed.

Here are some examples:

“Everyone knows that won’t work” 
“He is always mad at me” 
“I can’t do that because no one would like it” [Read more…]

Find the Right Teacher – When everything fails and nothing works out

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Have you ever listened to a motivational speaker and decided that you were going to make huge changes in your life – then a couple days after the seminar you lost all your motivation?

This has happened to me at least three times in my life. It took me several years to realize that motivation is a great short-term solution but a terrible long-term strategy.

Motivational can build you up, but where do you go when you come back down? What’s the fire underneath that needs to be burning in order for you to follow through with that huge change you want to make?  [Read more…]

One Way to Turn Anger and Upset Around

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If you find yourself angry or upset with someone in your life, I made up this short “emotion inversion” process to help you come to a different understanding of the situation and what you are truly upset about.

To “invert” an emotion is to take back the control it has over you. If you feel trapped by the grip of a negative emotion, regaining control of that emotion will give you back your power and maybe even give you the opportunity to cause the emotion to go away completely.   [Read more…]

Controlling upset toward others – Feeding dysfunctional people – Full commitment then re-evaluation

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When you get angry, frustrated or upset toward someone else, how quickly do you recover? Would you like to recover faster and get into a better space?

In segment one, I go over the five questions you can ask yourself that might just bring you out of the bad feeling you’re in. For segment two, I share how you might be feeding the dysfunctions of others in your life. If you feed someone else’s dysfunction, they’ll continue to show up in a way you don’t like over and over again.

In segment three, I talk about commitment and how just because you signed up for life, doesn’t mean you have to see it through – especially if the person you’re with has changed the rules and isn’t keeping up with their end of the bargain.