The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it

You know that feeling you get when someone does something that surprises you in a bad way but they don’t tell you why they did it?

When you aren’t given the reason for their behavior, you may walk around with that unfinished business feeling. It’s the feeling you get when you really want to move on from an event in your life but just can’t stop obsessing on why they did what they did. 

It’s a tough place to be, but it needs to be resolved if you’re going to move on and enjoy life again. 

Is it always necessary to dive into the past to heal old traumas?

How to heal old trauma without diving into the past

Where should you start when it comes to healing old stuff from the past? Should you do a deep dive into your childhood, bringing up all kinds of memories and traumas that you may or may not have repeated to therapists over and over again?

Or should you talk about how it bothers you today and see if someone can help you gain a new perspective? What about skipping over the trauma and just looking at what behavior came out of it?

There’s a path you can take to reverse old emotional triggers just by doing something different to get a different result. If it sounds too easy, then you definitely need to listen to this episode.

Friends and family that try to be helpful but really aren’t

Some loved ones really want to help you through your challenges. There are those that listen and support you and meet you where you are. Then there are those that have good intentions but fail miserably. It’s not that they’re incompetent, but it could be that they simply have no clue what they’re talking about. 

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The path to empowerment is full of risk and reward

Empowerment means having choices and some level of control over the results you get in your life. Disempowerment, as you know, is quite the opposite.

In my book, I take you on a journey from disempowerment to empowerment. In this episode, I summarize the path to empowerment so that you can get a good start.