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The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships

Find the Right Teacher – When everything fails and nothing works out

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Have you ever listened to a motivational speaker and decided that you were going to make huge changes in your life – then a couple days after the seminar you lost all your motivation?

This has happened to me at least three times in my life. It took me several years to realize that motivation is a great short-term solution but a terrible long-term strategy.

Motivational can build you up, but where do you go when you come back down? What’s the fire underneath that needs to be burning in order for you to follow through with that huge change you want to make?  [Read more…]

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One Way to Turn Anger and Upset Around

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If you find yourself angry or upset with someone in your life, I made up this short “emotion inversion” process to help you come to a different understanding of the situation and what you are truly upset about.

To “invert” an emotion is to take back the control it has over you. If you feel trapped by the grip of a negative emotion, regaining control of that emotion will give you back your power and maybe even give you the opportunity to cause the emotion to go away completely.   [Read more…]

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Handling a Rejection – Combining logic and emotion – Leaving doesn’t mean not loving

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Segment 1: How do you handle “no”?

Do you suffer hoping the other person would follow you to the ends of the earth, or do you welcome the opportunity to be free of someone that didn’t want to be with you? [Read more…]

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Those “think positively” people – Little problems that lead to explosive reactions – What is a toxic person?

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If you’re one of those people who repress negativity and put on a smile to hide your upset, you are likely creating negative emotions in your body that will eventually lead to depression. If you aren’t sure what I mean, listen to segment one of today’s episode.

In segment two, I talk about how the little spats in relationships that lead to massive blowups have an origin. The unspoken words are what cause those big explosions. It’s time to connect emotionally rather than logically to diffuse the emotional bombs before they explode.

For segment three, I answer the question: What is toxic? Do we call people toxic just to avoid our own personal growth? A listener challenges me on the topic.

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Blaming Others for Everything – Does time heal? – The overworking ADD partner – Hanging up on family

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Do you blame everyone else for what happens to you in your life?

In segment one, I argue that even when everything that goes wrong in your life is someone else’s fault, you can still get the results you want by doing one thing: Accepting responsibility for your role in what happens to you.

It’s a new way to create and measure your success so that you can come up with a game plan that’s right for you. [Read more…]

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