When your partner wants to stay friends with an ex who clearly still has feelings for them, it can feel like a threat to your relationship. You might feel unsafe, disrespected, or worried that they’re not prioritizing you.

These feelings are valid. But the way you handle them can either strengthen your relationship or slowly erode it.

The real issue isn’t usually about the ex at all. It’s often about trust, insecurity, and whether you’re trying to control your partner’s choices to manage your own fears.