The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships

Sometimes facing yourself is the only way change can happen

Carrying around emotional baggage weighs you down. It’s no way to live, yet millions of people do live this way.

Bearing this kind of weight while going through life can keep you from happiness until you are finally able to process and release it.

In this episode, I talk about some of the concepts of self-care and personal growth to help you start the journey of letting go of what no longer serves you.

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Walking around as an adult with dysfunctions from childhood

Dysfunctional behaviors often come from trauma, neglect, or abuse, but some can come from seemingly benign areas of life as well.

We don’t know the full impact our childhood had on us until we’re older trying to relate to other people outside of our family.

In this episode, I talk about one person’s experiences from childhood and how she recognized a lot of her dysfunctions, and how she is finding a way out of them.

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My Healing Journey from Being an Emotional Abuser

Emotional abuse is the ultimate brainwashing technique. It hides in the form of feigned helpfulness, generosity, compassion, and love. The perpetrator knows how to appear kind and caring while intertwining abusive behavior, causing their victim to become powerless.

Emotional abuse is a method of controlling, manipulating, belittling, and invalidating a person over time. It is often hard to spot in the moment as it can be seen as benign or even “normal” to most observers. But as this behavior is repeated time and time again, the insidious compound effect of this form of covert abuse causes its victims to lose confidence in themselves, stop trusting in their own decisions, feel devalued and unimportant, and blame themselves for being the cause of, and sometimes even deserving, of the abusive behavior.

(for my podcast on emotional abuse, be sure to visit loveandabuse.com)

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Dealing with selfish people that don’t care if they hurt you

When you are interacting with people that only want what they want, regardless of how it affects you, you’re in for a very dysfunctional, and possibly emotionally harmful situation.

It’s important to know your line and know when people cross it, then honor that line so that you don’t lose a bit of yourself.

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