The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

When bad things keep happening to you

When bad things keep happening to you
When bad things keep happening to you
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When bad things keep happening to you

Changing how you respond to and cope with challenges can improve your relationships and life overall. When you’re getting the same bad results over and over again, it might be time for a new perspective to help you create better outcomes. 

When times are tough, things will change. When times are tough, they sometimes get tougher and sometimes get better. And when they don’t get better, they might stay pretty bad for a while.

These aren’t happy truths. They’re real truths. They are reality.

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The hidden emotions that may be inside you and you don't know it

The hidden emotions that may be inside you and you don't know it
The hidden emotions that may be inside you and you don't know it

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The hidden emotions that may be inside you and you don't know it

Most people aren’t taught emotional intelligence in their upbringing. And because of that, there are often lingering negative emotions hanging around inside us that might need to be addressed if we’re going to experience a life without the burden of anxiety, depression, and emotional triggers.

Getting out of anxiety and depression is often not an easy task, but there is an angle I take today that might give you a good start.

When your top values aren’t being met, the rest of it falls apart

When your top values aren’t being met, the rest of it falls apart
When your top values aren’t being met, the rest of it falls apart
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When your top values aren’t being met, the rest of it falls apart
May 3, 2020

When your top level values are being met in your relationships, the rest of it usually works out. When they aren’t, you suffer and the relationship often fails. Every relationship, whether it’s platonic, romantic, or family, contains components that make up what we value.

Trust contains confidence and honesty whereas distrust contains fear and stress. I talk about that and read a few emails making for a variety show today.  

Will you ever be good enough?

Will you ever be good enough?
Will you ever be good enough?
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Will you ever be good enough?

When you are mistreated in some way and made to feel less than dirt, do you accept that you are as you are treated or that you are as you choose to be?

Don’t let other people’s perceptions of you define you. Hold yourself to a certain standard and watch everyone else change or leave. It’s not easy, of course. But it is very useful.

The Pain of Loss

The pain of loss
The pain of loss
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The pain of loss
January 2, 2022

The pain of loss shouldn’t be stuffed down and avoided, it should be felt at the deepest level, but only when you’re ready and only at the pace you can handle. Everyone experiences loss differently so what works for one person may not work for you.

In this episode, I help you connect with the deeper layers underneath the loss so that perhaps there can be some small release or relief. This isn’t about healing, it’s about connecting. And sometimes that’s all that’s needed to start healing.