The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

When loved ones resist the decisions you need to make for yourself

When loved ones resist the decisions you need to make for yourself
When loved ones resist the decisions you need to make for yourself
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When loved ones resist the decisions you need to make for yourself
July 26, 2020

Sometimes you have to make hard decisions for yourself. Your decisions may affect how people perceive you, causing them to resist what you’re doing.

Unfortunately, those that don’t support the decisions we make for ourselves are often stuck in how it’s going to affect them instead of benefit you.

In this episode, I read a message from a transgender man who experienced many challenges growing up and thinks he’s finally over the toughest parts. I give him my thoughts and also talk about how you can make life’s bigger decisions as well.

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Email grab bag: Purging awkwardness, the perfect partner, lonely and depressed

Email grab bag: Purging awkwardness, the perfect partner, lonely and depressed
Email grab bag: Purging awkwardness, the perfect partner, lonely and depressed
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Email grab bag: Purging awkwardness, the perfect partner, lonely and depressed
July 5, 2020

I read three emails that dive into awkward feelings when interacting with others, deciding whether to settle for someone who doesn’t know what they want in a relationship, and someone who wrote to me saying that they are lonely and depressed.

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Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction

Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction
Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction
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Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction
April 7, 2019

If you show compassion toward someone who then takes advantage of that compassion, do you back off on being kind, helpful, and accommodating?

Or do you try even harder by showing them even more compassion in hopes they will finally “see the light”?

In order for compassion to work, it has to come from an even deeper place of compassion in you… not for others, but for yourself.

Then, when you are abundant in self-compassion, you will be able to show genuine caring and compassion for others without the drain on you.

To make sure your compassion doesn’t kill you in your relationships, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast. 

8 Steps to Becoming the Ultimate People-Pleaser

If you find yourself people-pleasing for love, attention, or fear of confrontation, then this is article is for you.

As a former people-pleaser myself, I’ve learned exactly what it takes to become very proficient at it. I’ve gained much wisdom since growing out of that phase of my life, so I thought I’d share with you my tips on how to become the best people-pleaser possible.

Of course, if you are already a people-pleaser, you may gain some extra skills reading this article.

Are you ready? Here are the eight steps to becoming the ultimate people-pleaser:

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