Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships
Segment 1: If you want to change someone’s life, sometimes all it takes is a heartfelt “Thank You” or compliment. But not in passing.
A thank you or compliment that makes them stop and process it can be quite powerful. [Read more…]
Do you fantasize, daydream, play video games or watch TV in hopes that you won’t have to deal with reality?
It’s not all bad but anything in moderation, right? In the first segment of this episode, I talk about the benefits of skipping reality for a little bit as long as you connect with yourself in other ways. [Read more…]
Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external.
Internally, you can feel guilt for something you’ve said or done. Externally, you can feel the shame by being the recipient of other people’s judging and blaming. In this episode, a listener asks me the difference between the two so I do my best to explain how I see it. [Read more…]
Making a bad first impression is not necessarily your fault. You could be well dressed, have a great hair day, good breath, and even the best personality, but that mole behind your ear makes them think of their mean uncle and suddenly their first impression of you is that you aren’t trustworthy and will hurt them. That’s quite a jump in logic but it does happen.
In the first segment of this episode, I talk about a first impression a listener got with this show and how he criticized over 170 episodes by listening to one 15 minute segment.
What do you do when that one person criticizes you or your work? How do you block or avoid the emotional pain behind such a thing? [Read more…]
The number of manipulative people in the world is probably a lot higher than you might imagine. Of course, maybe I have that perception because the majority of my clients are in manipulative relationships and I just don’t see too many other types.
A few years ago I realized that I was also a manipulative person for most of my life, using my masterful communication skills to get my selfish needs met by those closest to me. In every relationship I’d ever been in I found ways to manipulate my partner. It took several breakups and finally a divorce for me to realize that my behavior was the reason for most of the heartaches I went through (and put others through). [Read more…]