Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships
Sometimes showing up authentically around certain people feels confrontational. One reason for that may be that you’ve never honored yourself in front of them before, so they may not have ever been exposed to you practicing self-respect or self-compassion.
If you’re ready to start being more authentic and letting other people know what’s acceptable and what’s not, you may have to ease them into the new you instead of dropping it on them like a brick. Some people need time to adapt.
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What is the right thing to do or say when your adult child tells you about their sexual abuse?
In this episode, I read an email from a mom who recently learned that her adult daughter was abused by another child when she was young. I bring my girlfriend Asha, an advocate for the prevention and healing of child sexual abuse, into the conversation for an honest, heartfelt discussion & guidance for the mom. [Read more…]
Segment 1: If you want to change someone’s life, sometimes all it takes is a heartfelt “Thank You” or compliment. But not in passing.
A thank you or compliment that makes them stop and process it can be quite powerful. [Read more…]
Do you fantasize, daydream, play video games or watch TV in hopes that you won’t have to deal with reality?
It’s not all bad but anything in moderation, right? In the first segment of this episode, I talk about the benefits of skipping reality for a little bit as long as you connect with yourself in other ways. [Read more…]
Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external.
Internally, you can feel guilt for something you’ve said or done. Externally, you can feel the shame by being the recipient of other people’s judging and blaming. In this episode, a listener asks me the difference between the two so I do my best to explain how I see it. [Read more…]
Making a bad first impression is not necessarily your fault. You could be well dressed, have a great hair day, good breath, and even the best personality, but that mole behind your ear makes them think of their mean uncle and suddenly their first impression of you is that you aren’t trustworthy and will hurt them. That’s quite a jump in logic but it does happen.
In the first segment of this episode, I talk about a first impression a listener got with this show and how he criticized over 170 episodes by listening to one 15 minute segment.
What do you do when that one person criticizes you or your work? How do you block or avoid the emotional pain behind such a thing? [Read more…]