The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

Obsessing about people

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Obsession is a potent force, a relentless pursuit that can consume our thoughts, behaviors, and even our lives. It’s a desperate longing that often disregards the clear signs of failure.

I know this because I’ve been there. I’ve been obsessed, and it’s not a place I would wish anyone to be.

When I was younger, I found myself in the throes of obsessive thinking more than once. My first girlfriend, my second girlfriend, my wife – all were subjects of my obsessive thoughts.

I would follow them, physically and mentally, recording their every move in my mind. I would look them up online, trying to piece together a bigger picture, hoping to find a crack in the door that I could slip through.

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The best kind of relationship is the one where you can be yourself

The best kind of relationship is the one where you can be yourself
The best kind of relationship is the one where you can be yourself
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The best kind of relationship is the one where you can be yourself
July 4, 2021
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Romantic relationships can create some of the most complex emotional challenges in your life. From heartful to heartache, from elated to deflated, relationships bring us through a roller coaster of emotions until we are either fulfilled or completely drained.

It doesn’t have to be that way. Sometimes the right tools and the right mindset can create relationships that don’t have to be so difficult. In fact, they can be wonderful when you know how to deal with the challenges that show up.

Is body image causing you to make decisions that aren’t in your best interest?

How your body image can make you do things you may regret
How your body image can make you do things you may regret
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How your body image can make you do things you may regret
July 22, 2021
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If you have ever dealt with body image issues, this is an important episode that addresses the subject of someone who lost over 100 pounds and learned that people treated her much differently afterward,

She was living the life she always wanted until she realized it wasn’t only the pounds she lost. She lost something a lot deeper. And happiness didn’t last.

This is a special episode of The Overwhelmed Brain where I introduce you to an amazing podcast called A Slight Change of Plans. I’m going to play you a segment from one of their episodes that I believe has a powerful life lesson for all of us.

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When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it

When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it
When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it
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When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it
April 19, 2020
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You know that feeling you get when someone does something that surprises you in a bad way but they don’t tell you why they did it?

When you aren’t given the reason for their behavior, you may walk around with that unfinished business feeling. It’s the feeling you get when you really want to move on from an event in your life but just can’t stop obsessing on why they did what they did. 

It’s a tough place to be, but it needs to be resolved if you’re going to move on and enjoy life again.