Do you fantasize, daydream, play video games or watch TV in hopes that you won’t have to deal with reality? It’s not all bad but anything in moderation, right? In the first segment of this episode, I talk about the benefits of skipping reality for a little bit as long as you connect with yourself in other ways. [Read more…]
Does your partner corner you into a no-win situation? Do they ask you questions that make you wrong no matter what you say?
In the first segment, I talk about double binds in relationships, and a couple ways to get out of the no-win questioning that often happens in both non-abusive and abusive relationships.
For segment 2, I discuss lashing out and where it comes from. Are they new emotions that seem to originate in the moment or are they old, stored emotions that derived from a single point in time? [Read more…]
When someone expresses themselves to you, do you cringe at the thought of you doing the same? Does the idea of sharing what they’re sharing make you feel uncomfortable? Does it stop you from living life the way you want with authenticity and confidence?
If you feel uncomfortable or shy when someone shares something vulnerable with you, that may be a sign that something could use some healing in you, if you want to explore it. It’s a great way to tell just what you need to work on in yourself.
Full expression can make you feel lighter and stronger at the same time, but it isn’t always easy to show up that authentically.
When does sex really start? Is it when you’re taking off your clothes?
Does it start when that heated kissing or “petting” begins? If you are emotionally connected, you already know when sex starts – way before you ever step into the bedroom. If however you’re somewhat detached from your emotions, sex is probably, mainly a physical thing for you.
Regardless of where you are on the spectrum of sexual intelligence, this segment is all about how to build up to it the right way so that it is as enjoyable as it can be. The buildup, the trust, the vulnerability, the attentiveness, the receptiveness, and a whole lot more can make or break a great sexual encounter, let alone a healthy, happy sex life to begin with. [Read more…]
If you aren’t a childhood sexual abuse survivor, you know one.
Survivors of childhood sexual abuse may not even be aware that they are a survivor. I had no clue that what I went through as a child, the trauma of receiving an enema at 7 years old, was considered a sexual violation. It was prescribed by a doctor and administered by a member of my family so it sounded like a completely legitimate medical procedure that should have only caused a minor discomfort.