The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships

Practicing non-confrontational ways to honor yourself

Sometimes showing up authentically around certain people feels confrontational. One reason for that may be that you’ve never honored yourself in front of them before, so they may not have ever been exposed to you practicing self-respect or self-compassion.

If you’re ready to start being more authentic and letting other people know what’s acceptable and what’s not, you may have to ease them into the new you instead of dropping it on them like a brick. Some people need time to adapt. 

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The regrets and leftover emotions after someone dies

When someone we love passes, it leaves a hole in our heart and sometimes a lack of closure. It’s that lack of closure that keeps us in feelings of guilt, regret, and other emotions that we just can’t shake.

If you’d like to heal and move past those feelings and start living life again, this episode may help you achieve that.

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Judgment – The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer

Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.

This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships. Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.

This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.

Judgment truly is the ultimate relationship destroyer. [Read more…]

Can Your Relationship Heal After An Affair?

If you’ve been the victim or the perpetrator of infidelity, or you suspect that there might be cheating in your relationship, this article will help you understand several important aspects of the cheater’s behavior, the cheating partner’s perspective, and what both partners need to focus on if they are planning on saving the relationship after the affair is discovered.

Whether you want to save your relationship or not, this article will be a good resource to help you understand the perspective of both partners.

A relationship can survive infidelity if both partners want to work on it, but there are some challenging steps ahead for the couple on this path.

This article is a path to understanding the basic components of the cheater, cheating in general, and what it takes to create a successful relationship during the rebuilding process. 

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Exploring Infidelity: Can The Relationship Survive The Affair?

>Cheating might be the end of most relationships, but many couples have survived and thrived after an affair. There are many components to infidelity so it’s important to understand it from all sides.

In this episode, I explore the basics of cheating and what will allow your relationship to survive and heal after the affair. [Read more…]

Stupid Questions to That Lead to Healing

Asking yourself stupid questions can help you heal from old emotional wounds.

I use a “drill-down” technique to get to the root of fear, shame, guilt, and other emotions I don’t like feeling. When you’re drilling down into an issue you’re having and you get to the point where you say, “Well, that’s a stupid question”, don’t stop, you’re on to something!

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