Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Passive-aggressive behavior is a way to convey anger and upset to someone indirectly. It takes the form of comments that are meant to hurt, but hard to spot as hurtful.
Passive-aggressive comments are forms of poisonous communication that can erode love and connection.
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Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.
This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships. Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.
This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.
Judgment truly is the ultimate relationship destroyer. [Read more…]
Emotional abuse is the ultimate brainwashing technique. It hides in the form of feigned helpfulness, generosity, compassion, and love. The perpetrator knows how to appear kind and caring while intertwining abusive behavior, causing their victim to become powerless.
Emotional abuse is a method of controlling, manipulating, belittling, and invalidating a person over time. It is often hard to spot in the moment as it can be seen as benign or even “normal” to most observers. But as this behavior is repeated time and time again, the insidious compound effect of this form of covert abuse causes its victims to lose confidence in themselves, stop trusting in their own decisions, feel devalued and unimportant, and blame themselves for being the cause of, and sometimes even deserving, of the abusive behavior.
(for my podcast on emotional abuse, be sure to visit loveandabuse.com)
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Do you make small compromises with the people you love so that they will like or love you more?
There are two ways to compromise:
One has attached resentments, the other doesn’t.
I’ll give you one guess which method of compromise works better for the relationships in your life.
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Silence is golden until it isn’t. In a relationship, it can be a slow death.
It’s vital to understand just how damaging withdrawing love and attention can be to a relationship. Over time, with continuing neglect, love can dissolve to the point where there’s no going back.
In this episode I talk about the three main levels of silent treatment:
1. Processing time to figure out what you’re going to do with what you just learned.
2. Cool-own time as a way to regulate what might normally be a heightened response
3. How to make someone you care about feel bad. I’ll give you one guess what that is.