Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
When your top level values are being met in your relationships, the rest of it usually works out. When they aren’t, you suffer and the relationship often fails. Every relationship, whether it’s platonic, romantic, or family, contains components that make up what we value.
Trust contains confidence and honesty whereas distrust contains fear and stress. I talk about that and read a few emails making for a variety show today.
Your mental health is too important to let those in denial ignore your suffering and invalidate your experience. The solution to someone’s ignorance could be to put the harsh truth in their face.
Or it could be to just accept that some people will always be blissfully unaware or in full denial. Acceptance that you can’t get through to everyone might be the one reality you can rely on.
When you are mistreated in some way and made to feel less than dirt, do you accept that you are as you are treated or that you are as you choose to be?
Don’t let other people’s perceptions of you define you. Hold yourself to a certain standard and watch everyone else change or leave. It’s not easy, of course. But it is very useful.
Albert Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”
When you aren’t getting the results you want today, or you find yourself easily triggered by certain events or people, you may be carrying around old baggage that perhaps requires a level of thinking just outside the box.
Many unresolved emotions sit outside the box of current thinking. If you don’t want to go outside that box, it could be why you’re stuck.
Sometimes you have to let things go and take a new road in order to find a sense of peace and comfort inside yourself. The new road may come with a high price that has an even higher reward.
Are you going to pay the high price for the reward, or take a longer path that involves a bit more mental labor? They are both challenging but they both lead to an outcome that is worth the journey.
