Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Do you value what your partner values? If not, you may be in for a rude awakening when they suddenly get upset with you for seemingly no reason.
What’s important to you may not be important to them, and vice versa, but it might be a good idea to make it important to you since your relationship’s longevity may depend on it.
Transcript for this episode is here.
Albert Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”
When you aren’t getting the results you want today, or you find yourself easily triggered by certain events or people, you may be carrying around old baggage that perhaps requires a level of thinking just outside the box.
Many unresolved emotions sit outside the box of current thinking. If you don’t want to go outside that box, it could be why you’re stuck.
Some people might say you overreact and sometimes you agree with them but can’t figure out how to stop doing it.
If you find yourself reacting as if you were in fight or flight, it’s time to get a grip on your emotional triggers and change the patterns that create those reactions in the first place.
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Sometimes we can’t help ourselves. Anger can come out of the blue and suddenly, we’re hurting someone we care about.
I received an email from someone who believes that sometimes you need people in your life to understand that you are going to get upset now and again, and they should be empathetic for your inability to control it. They have ADHD and have a challenge controlling the emotions that come up.
What is the solution? Should those you love be more tolerant of hurtful behavior or should they put you in your place, telling you to stop or else?
Where should you start when it comes to healing old stuff from the past? Should you do a deep dive into your childhood, bringing up all kinds of memories and traumas that you may or may not have repeated to therapists over and over again?
Or should you talk about how it bothers you today and see if someone can help you gain a new perspective? What about skipping over the trauma and just looking at what behavior came out of it?
There’s a path you can take to reverse old emotional triggers just by doing something different to get a different result. If it sounds too easy, then you definitely need to listen to this episode.
