The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it

You know that feeling you get when someone does something that surprises you in a bad way but they don’t tell you why they did it?

When you aren’t given the reason for their behavior, you may walk around with that unfinished business feeling. It’s the feeling you get when you really want to move on from an event in your life but just can’t stop obsessing on why they did what they did. 

It’s a tough place to be, but it needs to be resolved if you’re going to move on and enjoy life again. 

The pain you sometimes need to go through to increase your quality of life

The level of happiness and fulfillment you feel on a day to day basis can change based on many factors. One of those factors has to do with the ability to make hard decisions that may involve big changes that you’re not ready to face.

The fear and pain associated with change can often prevent us from doing what we need to do to increase our quality of life.

However, sometimes the lesson is that in order to reach a higher level of satisfaction in life, it might involve scary steps you don’t want to take. 

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The intimacy that happens behind their back

Cheating and infidelity can be a sensitive topic. You could be a victim to it, you could be the cheater, or you could be the one seeing someone who is cheating on their partner to be with you.

No matter what, there is almost always heartache on the other side. It doesn’t mean there isn’t healing, but there is almost always pain.

In this episode, I receive a message from a woman who is seeing someone cheating on his wife to be with her, and I read another message from someone who was once the cheater. 

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Should commitments always be a forever thing?

Getting that job, buying that house, moving in with that person, promising to repay a debt… all commitments that that most of us go into with good intentions, but is it required to keep them no matter what?

Some commitments that started off as a good idea may need to be re-evaluated if what you thought was going to be great isn’t.  [Read more…]

The emotional aftermath of getting free of the narcissistic relationship

The emotional challenges you experience after breaking up with a narcissist usually go way beyond grieving the end of a relationship.

You can be stripped of your ability to see life clearly from that point on unless you heal.

In this bonus episode, I cover a lot of ground when it comes to dealing with what happens to your mind and body as you transition out of one of the more toxic relationships that exist.