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Email Grab Bag 4 – Rising toleration of bad behavior, from victim to victor, porn ruining the relationship

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Email Grab Bag 4 – Rising toleration of bad behavior, from victim to victor, porn ruining the relationship

September 26, 2021

I read three emails from people in three different circumstances. The first one is about a troubled marriage where the wife doesn’t know why she is staying and can’t figure out how to make the decision to leave.

Segment two is about dealing with the victim mentality and what questions you can ask a chronic complainer in order to get them to do something about what they’re complaining about.

Segment three is about a wife who discovered her husband watches porn and since then their once happy, amazing marriage is now in shambles with little hope for the future. Lots to talk about in this episode!

Just how deep do you have to dig to heal unresolved issues?

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Just how deep do you have to dig to heal unresolved issues?

September 5, 2021

The past can wreak havoc on the present, especially on your relationships. If therapy, reading, watching videos, and learning all you can about how to improve and heal isn’t working, sometimes you need to dig so deep that break down the wall that’s hiding the true source of pain underneath. At that point, healing can begin.

Can there be peace and balance in an unbalanced relationship?

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Can there be peace and balance in an unbalanced relationship?

September 6, 2020

Some people have a strange way of balancing their lives. Some folks will pick up a hobby or hang out with friends.

But others may take a darker route. They’ll betray their partner or become addicted to drugs or alcohol. You may not see that as balance, but for those people, that’s how they get it.

There are of course healthier ways to balance your life & your relationships, but in this episode, we’re going to talk about the less popular ones.

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When loved ones resist the decisions you need to make for yourself

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When loved ones resist the decisions you need to make for yourself

July 26, 2020

Sometimes you have to make hard decisions for yourself. Your decisions may affect how people perceive you, causing them to resist what you’re doing.

Unfortunately, those that don’t support the decisions we make for ourselves are often stuck in how it’s going to affect them instead of benefit you.

In this episode, I read a message from a transgender man who experienced many challenges growing up and thinks he’s finally over the toughest parts. I give him my thoughts and also talk about how you can make life’s bigger decisions as well.

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Can You Make Peace with Your Cravings?

I was chatting with a client recently and told her that over the weekend, I drank a soda. This may not be a shock to you, but it was for me because I haven’t had a soda in about twenty years.

I was at a horse farm with my girlfriend enjoying some time away from home, and this craving came over me. I really, really wanted a soda.

Every time I’ve tried to drink soda in the past (after I quit soft drinks), I got an instant headache. This was a blessing when I was getting off my soft drink addiction because it made the cravings a lot easier to reject.

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