The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

When loved ones resist the decisions you need to make for yourself

Sometimes you have to make hard decisions for yourself. Your decisions may affect how people perceive you, causing them to resist what you’re doing.

Unfortunately, those that don’t support the decisions we make for ourselves are often stuck in how it’s going to affect them instead of benefit you.

In this episode, I read a message from a transgender man who experienced many challenges growing up and thinks he’s finally over the toughest parts. I give him my thoughts and also talk about how you can make life’s bigger decisions as well.

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Learning that your adult child suffered child sexual abuse

What is the right thing to do or say when your adult child tells you about their sexual abuse?

In this episode, I read an email from a mom who recently learned that her adult daughter was abused by another child when she was young. I bring my girlfriend Asha, an advocate for the prevention and healing of child sexual abuse, into the conversation for an honest, heartfelt discussion & guidance for the mom.

helpforsurvivors.org
Articles and resources for child sexual abuse survivors

thefionaproject.org
A music and arts movement for child sexual abuse prevention and healing

Dealing with mean family

There is a way to deal with mean family members. It may involve treating them like other people instead of family, which can help you disconnect from wanting to impress them or be loved by them.

This episode helps to prepare you to deal with the not-so-friendly relatives you may have no choice but do deal with.

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Judgment – The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer

Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.

This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships. Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.

This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.

Judgment truly is the ultimate relationship destroyer. [Read more…]

Making difficult or impossible decisions

If you’re always looking in the rearview mirror, it’s quite possible you’re not creating the life you want.

Sometimes you get to the tipping point where you just can’t stand it anymore and you take action. Segment one of this episode covers this and more.

In segment two, there’s a seriously difficult decision facing someone who wrote to me who is married but wants to explore being transgender, but his wife is upset and the marriage is in limbo. The impossible decision looms over him.