How can you possibly forget that one ex that “wasted” years of your life? How can you possibly forgive them either?

In the first segment of this episode, I read a letter from someone who married a big problem and now she is upset at him for “stealing” so many years of her life. She wants to forgive and move on but can’t seem to do it. (read more…)

In a recent episode of The Overwhelmed Brain podcast, I talk about when to call it quits in a relationship. It’s probably not one of those feel good shows that everyone wants to hear. In fact, I received a message from someone who said it was a great episode and revealed some things in his relationship that might need to be addressed.

I felt good that I could bring value to his life but also a little bad that I could be seen as the bearer of bad news! After all, sometimes life goes by and you can be in happy denial until someone points out that something might be wrong. (read more…)

Your sense of self and identity can dissolve or even be rewritten over years of trauma, abuse, and / or dysfunction.

Dis-integration can happen after a lifetime of challenges that you haven’t yet healed from, causing you to feel scattered and feel like you have no purpose.

When you don’t have a strong emotional foundation, the hard times are harder and you feel beat up and burnt out almost all the time so it’s important to establish who you are. (read more…)

What happens when you reach that age where you thought you would have accomplished certain things in life but are nowhere close to what you set out to do 10, 20, 30 or more years ago? Do you get depressed? Do you have a mid-life crisis?

Or… maybe you see that there’s a bigger plan in the works for your life. If that’s too spiritual a view for you, perhaps it’s time to come to terms with your fears and accept realities you don’t want to accept. (read more…)

When does sex really start? Is it when you’re taking off your clothes?

Does it start when that heated kissing or “petting” begins? If you are emotionally connected, you already know when sex starts – way before you ever step into the bedroom.  If however you’re somewhat detached from your emotions, sex is probably, mainly a physical thing for you.

Regardless of where you are on the spectrum of sexual intelligence, this segment is all about how to build up to it the right way so that it is as enjoyable as it can be. The buildup, the trust, the vulnerability, the attentiveness, the receptiveness, and a whole lot more can make or break a great sexual encounter, let alone a healthy, happy sex life to begin with. (read more…)