The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

People can change but what about when they don’t or won’t?

People can change but what about when they don’t or wont?
People can change but what about when they don’t or wont?
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People can change but what about when they don’t or wont?
October 31, 2021
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Sometimes we’re stuck with someone that doesn’t have our best interest in mind. Not only that, they may even have a not-so-pleasant plan to make us miserable.


What do you do with the toxic person that doesn’t want to, or can’t change? Is there hope when you’re in what seems like a no-win situation?

I try to answer that question in today’s episode.

Important: If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, I created the podcast Love and Abuse to help you navigate through the difficulties.

If you’ve discovered that you are an emotionally abusive person and would like to change that about yourself, sign up for the life-changing Healed Being program over at healedbeing.com).

When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own

When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own
When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own
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When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own
October 25, 2020
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Your mental health is too important to let those in denial ignore your suffering and invalidate your experience. The solution to someone’s ignorance could be to put the harsh truth in their face.

Or it could be to just accept that some people will always be blissfully unaware or in full denial. Acceptance that you can’t get through to everyone might be the one reality you can rely on.

Will you ever be good enough?

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Will you ever be good enough?
Will you ever be good enough?
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Will you ever be good enough?
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When you are mistreated in some way and made to feel less than dirt, do you accept that you are as you are treated or that you are as you choose to be?

Don’t let other people’s perceptions of you define you. Hold yourself to a certain standard and watch everyone else change or leave. It’s not easy, of course. But it is very useful.

Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you

Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you
Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you
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Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you
April 5, 2020
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Can you get back up after a big fall? If you’re struggling to do so, your foundation may not be as stable as you’d hoped.

The components that make up your life: Your job, your family, your home, the city you live in, your car, etc, all have some sort of meaning or value to you. When you start to let go that which no longer serves you, you start to free yourself from the toxic components.

What do you value and what gives you heartburn every time you think about it? Sometimes removing one small thing from your life can make a big change.

Should you be more tolerant of bad behavior when they can’t control themselves?

Should you be more tolerant of bad behavior when they can’t control themselves?
Should you be more tolerant of bad behavior when they can’t control themselves?
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Should you be more tolerant of bad behavior when they can’t control themselves?
July 25, 2021
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Sometimes we can’t help ourselves. Anger can come out of the blue and suddenly, we’re hurting someone we care about. 

I received an email from someone who believes that sometimes you need people in your life to understand that you are going to get upset now and again, and they should be empathetic for your inability to control it. They have ADHD and have a challenge controlling the emotions that come up. 

What is the solution? Should those you love be more tolerant of hurtful behavior or should they put you in your place, telling you to stop or else?