Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships
How difficult is it to experience life to the fullest when you have a dark cloud of problems and challenges?
In this episode, I help you tackle the problems in your life with many questions designed to loosen the grip emotional challenges have on you. If you can get some relief from the problems in your life, perhaps you could experience more of what it has to offer.
Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up.
When you are raised by those who didn’t or couldn’t love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed “broken” tools to deal with situations as an adult. When your emotional toolbox has a bunch of broken tools, you may keep getting the results you don’t want, causing you to stay unhappy.
In this episode, I help you identify those broken tools and what you can do to start utilizing them the right way, or even fixing them altogether.
When you get angry, frustrated or upset toward someone else, how quickly do you recover? Would you like to recover faster and get into a better space?
In segment one, I go over the five questions you can ask yourself that might just bring you out of the bad feeling you’re in. For segment two, I share how you might be feeding the dysfunctions of others in your life. If you feed someone else’s dysfunction, they’ll continue to show up in a way you don’t like over and over again.
In segment three, I talk about commitment and how just because you signed up for life, doesn’t mean you have to see it through – especially if the person you’re with has changed the rules and isn’t keeping up with their end of the bargain.
If your relationship has gone through its ups and downs but is now on a good path to prosper, you’ll probably want to keep it that way.
Here are ten steps you can take to make sure your relationship stays healthy and continues to blossom. For more of an in-depth look at each step, listen to the episode attached to this post.
(after you read this article, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast for advice on how to avoid toxic behavior in relationships)
Segment 1: Asking yourself stupid questions may be the path to healing and moving through the hard stuff in your life.
We often have choices when it appears we don’t – stupid questions may lead to more choices (full article here).
If your partner’s family is against you and your partner sides with them, what do you do?
When you can’t feel safe in your own relationship because your partner’s priority is his or her own family over you, you may have some hard choices to make. In this episode, Matthew Bivens and I have an emotionally intelligent conversation about an email I received from a woman whose husband shared her personal message to a relative of his.
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