Self-Esteem Archives - The Overwhelmed Brain

When bad things keep happening to you

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Changing how you respond to and cope with challenges can improve your relationships and life overall. When you’re getting the same bad results over and over again, it might be time for a new perspective to help you create better outcomes.

When times are tough, things will change. When times are tough, they sometimes get tougher and sometimes get better. And when they don’t get better, they might stay pretty bad for a while.

These aren’t happy truths. They’re real truths. They are reality.

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Obsessing about people

Obsession is a potent force, a relentless pursuit that can consume our thoughts, behaviors, and even our lives. It’s a desperate longing that often disregards the clear signs of failure.

I know this because I’ve been there. I’ve been obsessed, and it’s not a place I would wish anyone to be.

When I was younger, I found myself in the throes of obsessive thinking more than once. My first girlfriend, my second girlfriend, my wife – all were subjects of my obsessive thoughts.

I would follow them, physically and mentally, recording their every move in my mind. I would look them up online, trying to piece together a bigger picture, hoping to find a crack in the door that I could slip through.

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Are your feelings wrong?

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Are your feelings wrong?

April 23, 2023

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In Any Relationship, You’re Either Contributing to It or Taking Away From It.

When you take away from it, you are pulling out the main ingredients of what make a relationship healthy and enjoyable. When you are contributing to it, you are strengthening it you are giving it the life and vibrancy, it needs to stay healthy and last long.

One of the things I’ve learned over the years is that the more you show up as your true self with mostly everyone in your life, life becomes a lot easier.

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The ‘take care of you’ episode: Showing up as the best version of yourself

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The ‘take care of you’ episode: Showing up as the best version of yourself

November 18, 2018

What does it take to become the best version of you? What do you need to do for yourself so that you become happier and more fulfilled?

This episode is all about you and what it takes to become the most supportive, compassionate person to yourself.

Will you ever be good enough?

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Will you ever be good enough?

When you are mistreated in some way and made to feel less than dirt, do you accept that you are as you are treated or that you are as you choose to be?

Don’t let other people’s perceptions of you define you. Hold yourself to a certain standard and watch everyone else change or leave. It’s not easy, of course. But it is very useful.