The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

Are your feelings wrong?

Are your feelings wrong?
Are your feelings wrong?
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Are your feelings wrong?
April 23, 2023

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In Any Relationship, You’re Either Contributing to It or Taking Away From It.

When you take away from it, you are pulling out the main ingredients of what make a relationship healthy and enjoyable. When you are contributing to it, you are strengthening it you are giving it the life and vibrancy, it needs to stay healthy and last long.

One of the things I’ve learned over the years is that the more you show up as your true self with mostly everyone in your life, life becomes a lot easier.

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Does vulnerability increase love and connection?

Does vulnerability increase love and connection?
Does vulnerability increase love and connection?
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Does vulnerability increase love and connection?

What does it take to feel love and connection? What does it take to show love and connection? Is vulnerability the path? What exactly does it mean? Can you have a strong, loving relationship without the need to be so exposed emotionally? I do my best to answer these questions in this episode. [Read more…]

How to Make Your Relationship Last Almost Forever

Do you value what your partner values? If not, you may be in for a rude awakening when they suddenly get upset with you for seemingly no reason.

What’s important to you may not be important to them, and vice versa, but it might be a good idea to make what they value important to you since your relationship’s longevity may depend on it.

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Avoiding vulnerability and stuffing down emotions

Avoiding vulnerability and stuffing down emotions
Avoiding vulnerability and stuffing down emotions
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Avoiding vulnerability and stuffing down emotions
November 11, 2018

When you carry around an inability to be vulnerable, you can build up an emotional resistance increasing the negativity inside of you. When this happens, you end up living a life that isn’t as happy or fulfilling as it could be.

I explain this process in this episode.

Does Authenticity Make You Cringe – Getting Past Your Partner’s Past – Building Rapport with People

Does Authenticity Make You Cringe – Getting Past Your Partner’s Past – Building Rapport with People
Does Authenticity Make You Cringe – Getting Past Your Partner’s Past – Building Rapport with People
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Does Authenticity Make You Cringe – Getting Past Your Partner’s Past – Building Rapport with People
June 25, 2017

When someone expresses themselves to you, do you cringe at the thought of you doing the same? Does the idea of sharing what they’re sharing make you feel uncomfortable? Does it stop you from living life the way you want with authenticity and confidence?

If you feel uncomfortable or shy when someone shares something vulnerable with you, that may be a sign that something could use some healing in you, if you want to explore it. It’s a great way to tell just what you need to work on in yourself.

Full expression can make you feel lighter and stronger at the same time, but it isn’t always easy to show up authentically.

In the second segment, I read a letter from someone I call Larry. He said he can’t get his girlfriend’s two-night stand out of his head. Even though that relationship ended way before Larry met her, he still has an issue with it.

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