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The risk you take by being your authentic self

The risk you take by being your authentic self
The risk you take by being your authentic self
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The risk you take by being your authentic self
January 31, 2021

Do you form authentic relationships by being the real you, or do you only show people what you believe they want to see?

What are the risks of showing up as the real you? It may be worth taking a risk to find that out.

Filed Under: Dating, Identity, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: How do I say what I really want to say?, I want to be authentic, I want to speak my mind

Practicing non-confrontational ways to honor yourself

Practicing non-confrontational ways to honor yourself
Practicing non-confrontational ways to honor yourself
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Practicing non-confrontational ways to honor yourself
August 30, 2020

Sometimes showing up authentically around certain people feels confrontational. One reason for that may be that you’ve never honored yourself in front of them before, so they may not have ever been exposed to you practicing self-respect or self-compassion.

If you’re ready to start being more authentic and letting other people know what’s acceptable and what’s not, you may have to ease them into the new you instead of dropping it on them like a brick. Some people need time to adapt. 

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Filed Under: Communication, Decisions, Guilt, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Shame, Values Tagged With: Honoring your boundaries without conflict, How do I honor myself without being confrontational?, Is there a way to honor my boundaries without being a jerk?

Happiness dissolves when you don’t let other people know what your boundaries are

What does it take to honor your boundaries and live from that authentic place inside you? Do you earn the respect you deserve?

You might be surprised to find out that respect from others happens naturally when you honor yourself and your personal boundaries. Doing this shows the world who you really are, and what behavior is okay, and what is not.

You are worthy and deserve respect. Honoring yourself shows the world the type of behavior you will and won’t accept, improving your relationships and keeping you not only happier, but sane!

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Filed Under: Behavior, Blog article, Communication, Healthy Thinking, Human Potential, Identity, Negative Emotions, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Relationships Tagged With: How can I honor my boundaries?, People keep disrespecting me, What are personal boundaries?

Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction

Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction
Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction
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Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction
April 7, 2019

If you show compassion toward someone who then takes advantage of that compassion, do you back off on being kind, helpful, and accommodating?

Or do you try even harder by showing them even more compassion in hopes they will finally “see the light”?

In order for compassion to work, it has to come from an even deeper place of compassion in you… not for others, but for yourself.

Then, when you are abundant in self-compassion, you will be able to show genuine caring and compassion for others without the drain on you.

To make sure your compassion doesn’t kill you in your relationships, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast. 

Filed Under: anxiety, Codependency, Compassion, Depression, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, enabling, Family, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, rescuer, Toxic Thinking Tagged With: compassion for others, is your compassion killing you?

8 Steps to Becoming the Ultimate People-Pleaser

If you find yourself people-pleasing for love, attention, or fear of confrontation, then this is article is for you.

As a former people-pleaser myself, I’ve learned exactly what it takes to become very proficient at it. I’ve gained much wisdom since growing out of that phase of my life, so I thought I’d share with you my tips on how to become the best people-pleaser possible.

Of course, if you are already a people-pleaser, you may gain some extra skills reading this article.

Are you ready? Here are :

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Filed Under: anger, Behavior, Codependency, Depression, Dysfunction, enabling, Family, Insecurity, Negative Emotions, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic Behavior Tagged With: people pleasing, The ultimate guide to people pleasing

Living life on your terms

Living life on your terms
Living life on your terms
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Living life on your terms
November 25, 2018

How many decisions do you make in your life that are actually based on what you want instead of how someone else will respond?

Sometimes it takes a swift kick in the emotional behind to get moving on your decisions so that you can get out of the emotional rut of trying to please others while losing yourself.

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Codependency, Communication, Decisions, Desires, Motivation, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: better decision making, living life on your terms

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