Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
What do you do when someone you care about tells you a secret that affects other people you care about? Do you follow your heart or your values? Does your moral compass activate and make you express the secret to those who should know?
A dilemma like this seems like it has no real good answer. But I’ll share what I went through and how I handled it.
Are you just too sensitive or is the other person really being a jerk? I read a follow-up email from an episode a few weeks back and answer a question about the difference between being triggered and someone’s bad behavior.
In segment two, I get serious and talk about child sexual abuse and what might happen when the family secret is found out.
Sometimes we’re stuck with someone that doesn’t have our best interest in mind. Not only that, they may even have a not-so-pleasant plan to make us miserable.
What do you do with the toxic person that doesn’t want to, or can’t change? Is there hope when you’re in what seems like a no-win situation?
I try to answer that question in today’s episode.
Your mental health is too important to let those in denial ignore your suffering and invalidate your experience. The solution to someone’s ignorance could be to put the harsh truth in their face.
Or it could be to just accept that some people will always be blissfully unaware or in full denial. Acceptance that you can’t get through to everyone might be the one reality you can rely on.
Can you get back up after a big fall? If you’re struggling to do so, your foundation may not be as stable as you’d hoped.
The components that make up your life: Your job, your family, your home, the city you live in, your car, etc, all have some sort of meaning or value to you. When you start to let go that which no longer serves you, you start to free yourself from the toxic components.
What do you value and what gives you heartburn every time you think about it? Sometimes removing one small thing from your life can make a big change.
