Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
If you want a toxic person to change, it will probably never happen. However, there is something you can do to change the course of the relationship that may actually cause them to act differently.
Sometimes you have to make rules that guide toxic people to healthier behavior.
A boring conversation can make you fall asleep. Some people seem not to be concerned if you care about what they’re saying. They’ll just talk and tell stories while you sit there, hoping that the fire alarm goes off to save you.
Or, is it you I’m talking about?
Some family does not forgive and move on. The last fight could have changed the relationship forever.
Some people hold on to grudges and expect you to come groveling back. But if it’s not your fault, should you? Do you want to reconnect but are waiting for them to apologize?
If you have estranged friends or family, this episode may help you reconnect or accept that perhaps you may never be able to reconcile.
What do you do when someone you care about tells you a secret that affects other people you care about? Do you follow your heart or your values? Does your moral compass activate and make you express the secret to those who should know?
A dilemma like this seems like it has no real good answer. But I’ll share what I went through and how I handled it.
Are you just too sensitive or is the other person really being a jerk? I read a follow-up email from an episode a few weeks back and answer a question about the difference between being triggered and someone’s bad behavior.
In segment two, I get serious and talk about child sexual abuse and what might happen when the family secret is found out.
