The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships

Walking around as an adult with dysfunctions from childhood

Dysfunctional behaviors often come from trauma, neglect, or abuse, but some can come from seemingly benign areas of life as well.

We don’t know the full impact our childhood had on us until we’re older trying to relate to other people outside of our family.

In this episode, I talk about one person’s experiences from childhood and how she recognized a lot of her dysfunctions, and how she is finding a way out of them.

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How to deal with the worries of today and the emotional triggers of every day

The challenges of today seem greater than ever. Emotions are running high and we can become triggered easily.

What do you do with all this pent up energy?

If you’re not using it to fight for a cause or help you out of a dangerous situation, it may be festering inside you causing you to feel pretty rotten.

In this episode, I give you questions you can ask yourself to get out of the whirlwind of negativity and into a calmer space inside you.

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Judgment – The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer

Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.

This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships. Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.

This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.

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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools

Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up.

When you are raised by those who didn’t or couldn’t love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed “broken” tools to deal with situations as an adult. When your emotional toolbox has a bunch of broken tools, you may keep getting the results you don’t want, causing you to stay unhappy.

In this episode, I help you identify those broken tools and what you can do to start utilizing them the right way, or even fixing them altogether.

When your parent doesn’t make you feel worthy

Where does your self-worth come from if it isn’t instilled in you from your parents or caretakers? There is a path to a higher sense of self-worth and self-esteem. It may not be an easy path, but it does exist.

In this episode, I read a message from someone who’s father prefers his new family over his old one.