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How to deal with the worries of today and the emotional triggers of every day

June 29, 2020 By Paul Leave a Comment

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How to deal with the worries of today and the emotional triggers of every day

The challenges of today seem greater than ever. Emotions are running high and we can become triggered easily.

What do you do with all this pent up energy?

If you’re not using it to fight for a cause or help you out of a dangerous situation, it may be festering inside you causing you to feel pretty rotten.

In this episode, I give you questions you can ask yourself to get out of the whirlwind of negativity and into a calmer space inside you. [Read more…]

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Judgment – The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer

April 1, 2020 By Paul Colaianni 2 Comments

Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.

This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships.

Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.

This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.

Judgment truly is the ultimate relationship destroyer. [Read more…]

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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools

August 5, 2018 By Paul Colaianni Leave a Comment

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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools

Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up.

When you are raised by those who didn’t or couldn’t love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed “broken” tools to deal with situations as an adult. When your emotional toolbox has a bunch of broken tools, you may keep getting the results you don’t want, causing you to stay unhappy.

In this episode, I help you identify those broken tools and what you can do to start utilizing them the right way, or even fixing them altogether.

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When your parent doesn’t make you feel worthy

May 20, 2018 By Paul Colaianni Leave a Comment

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When your parent doesn’t make you feel worthy

Where does your self-worth come from if it isn’t instilled in you from your parents or caretakers? There is a path to a higher sense of self-worth and self-esteem. It may not be an easy path, but it does exist.

In this episode, I read a message from someone who’s father prefers his new family over his old one.

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Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor

November 26, 2017 By Paul Colaianni Leave a Comment

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Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor

Do you fantasize, daydream, play video games or watch TV in hopes that you won’t have to deal with reality?

It’s not all bad but anything in moderation, right? In the first segment of this episode, I talk about the benefits of skipping reality for a little bit as long as you connect with yourself in other ways. [Read more…]

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