When the feelings of inadequacy overcome you, do you let them linger in the background? Do you repress them so that they come out in emotionally destructive ways later? Inadequacy usually has a source. We’ll talk about that and a lot more in this packed episode.
Your sense of self and identity can dissolve or even be rewritten over years of trauma, abuse, and/or dysfunction.
Dis-integration can happen after a lifetime of challenges that you haven’t yet healed from, causing you to feel scattered and feel like you have no purpose.
When you don’t have a strong emotional foundation, the hard times are harder and you feel beat up and burnt out almost all the time so it’s important to establish who you are.[Read more…]
I’d like to share an embarrassing story with you. In my early thirties, I thought I was one of the best harmonica players in the world. I really did! After all, I was imitating some of the best players so obviously, I was just as talented.
Then I decided that I wanted to BE the best, so I bought some CDs and started imitating more players. However, after listening to more artists with some amazing gifts, I was suddenly struck with a realization that not only was I not in the top tier of best players in the world, but I wasn’t even on the bottom rung of a very tall ladder of talent and skill.[Read more…]
There are many spiritual teachers and personal growth gurus telling us to let go of our egos. However I’d like to offer an alternative: Build it up!
I don’t disagree that letting go of the ego is a fantastic state to aspire to, but I wanted to know what would happen if I nurtured my ego in a healthy way that best served me and others around me.
In this article (and podcast episode), I visit the ego and share how to build and evolve it so that it releases your fears, insecurities and anxieties.
Who knows? Maybe you just need to inflate your ego a bit to create the peace and ease you want in your life.
Self-worth is how you perceive yourself through other people’s eyes. Self-esteem is how confident and worthy you feel about yourself.
Your self-esteem can be crushed if you are around people that do not recognize your worth. And after years of low self-worth, you may feel like a loser who doesn’t deserve good things in life. On top of that, if you work hard at developing your worth and esteem, your ego can come in and try to spoil things even more.
There are ways to build and nurture all three of these so that you can tackle life a lot easier when the challenges present themselves. [Read more…]