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The regrets and leftover emotions after someone dies

The regrets and leftover emotions after someone dies
The regrets and leftover emotions after someone dies
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The regrets and leftover emotions after someone dies
August 16, 2020

When someone we love passes, it leaves a hole in our heart and sometimes a lack of closure. It’s that lack of closure that keeps us in feelings of guilt, regret, and other emotions that we just can’t shake.

If you’d like to heal and move past those feelings and start living life again, this episode may help you achieve that.

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Filed Under: Abandonment, Death, Depression, Guilt, Loneliness, Loss, Mourning, Podcast Episode, Regret, Suicide Tagged With: How do I heal from the pain of death?, How to get over the pain of death?, I still hurt because they died

My Healing Journey from Being an Emotional Abuser

Emotional abuse is the ultimate brainwashing technique. It hides in the form of feigned helpfulness, generosity, compassion, and love. The perpetrator knows how to appear kind and caring while intertwining abusive behavior, causing their victim to become powerless.

Emotional abuse is a method of controlling, manipulating, belittling, and invalidating a person over time. It is often hard to spot in the moment as it can be seen as benign or even “normal” to most observers. But as this behavior is repeated time and time again, the insidious compound effect of this form of covert abuse causes its victims to lose confidence in themselves, stop trusting in their own decisions, feel devalued and unimportant, and blame themselves for being the cause of, and sometimes even deserving, of the abusive behavior.

(after you read this article, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast for more on emotional abuse and manipulation in relationships)

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Filed Under: Abandonment, Blog article, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Healing, Emotional Withdrawal, Empathy, Judgment, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Relationships, Toxic Behavior, Toxic Thinking Tagged With: Am I emotionally abusive?, Can the emotional abuser be fixed?, Can the emotional abuser change?, How to stop being emotionally abusive, I am emotionally abusve, Is it possible for abusive people to change?

Can Your Relationship Heal After An Affair?

If you’ve been the victim or the perpetrator of infidelity, or you suspect that there might be cheating in your relationship, this article will help you understand several important aspects of the cheater’s behavior, the cheating partner’s perspective, and what both partners need to focus on if they are planning on saving the relationship after the affair is discovered.

Whether you want to save your relationship or not, this article will be a good resource to help you understand the perspective of both partners.

A relationship can survive infidelity if both partners want to work on it, but there are some challenging steps ahead for the couple on this path.

This article is a path to understanding the basic components of the cheater, cheating in general, and what it takes to create a successful relationship during the rebuilding process. 

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Filed Under: Abandonment, Communication, Deception, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Fears, Guilt, Infidelity, Jealousy, Loneliness, Lying, Manipulation, Marriage, Regret, Relationships, Sex, Values Tagged With: cheated on me, cheating husband, cheating wife, healing after cheating, healing from the affair, surviving infidelity, why do people cheat

When your parent doesn’t make you feel worthy

When your parent doesn't make you feel worthy
When your parent doesn't make you feel worthy
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When your parent doesn't make you feel worthy
May 20, 2018

Where does your self-worth come from if it isn’t instilled in you from your parents or caretakers? There is a path to a higher sense of self-worth and self-esteem. It may not be an easy path, but it does exist.

In this episode, I read a message from someone who’s father prefers his new family over his old one.

Filed Under: Abandonment, Ask Paul, childhood, Children, Divorce, Family, Insecurity, Marriage, People Pleaser, Podcast Episode, Rejection, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: My dad doesn't love me, My father loves his new family over his old family

Exploring Infidelity: Can The Relationship Survive The Affair?

Exploring infidelity – Can the relationship survive the affair
Exploring infidelity – Can the relationship survive the affair
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Exploring infidelity – Can the relationship survive the affair
March 25, 2018

>Cheating might be the end of most relationships, but many couples have survived and thrived after an affair. There are many components to infidelity so it’s important to understand it from all sides.

In this episode, I explore the basics of cheating and what will allow your relationship to survive and heal after the affair. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Ask Paul, Deception, Divorce, Family, Forgiveness, Guilt, Infidelity, Intimacy, Jealousy, Lying, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Rejection, Relationships, Sex, Values Tagged With: heal from cheating, Surviving the affair

Stupid Questions to That Lead to Healing

Asking yourself stupid questions can help you heal from old emotional wounds.

I use a “drill-down” technique to get to the root of fear, shame, guilt, and other emotions I don’t like feeling. When you’re drilling down into an issue you’re having and you get to the point where you say, “Well, that’s a stupid question”, don’t stop, you’re on to something!

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Filed Under: Abandonment, Fears, Guilt, Human Potential, Humiliation, Loneliness, Negative Emotions, Rejection, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: How can I stop being triggered?, I can't stop thinking negatively all the time

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