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What to do when the judgments come out of you

What to do when the judgments come out of you
What to do when the judgments come out of you
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What to do when the judgments come out of you
September 9, 2020

Are you judgmental toward those you love? In this episode, I talk about how your judgments can dissolve the love in your relationship. What can you do to heal from being judgmental?

The road to healing from judging others can be challenging, but the emotional and relationship rewards are too rich to pass up. 

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Filed Under: anger, Control, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Triggers, Judgment, Manipulation, Marriage, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: My partner is always criticizing me, My partner is so judgmental toward me, My wife is always judging me, Why husband judges everything I do

Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day

Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day
Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day
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Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day
May 26, 2019

Passive-aggressive behavior is a way to convey anger and upset to someone indirectly. It takes the form of comments that are meant to hurt, but hard to spot as hurtful.

Passive-aggressive comments are forms of poisonous communication that can erode love and connection.

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Filed Under: anger, Communication, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Judgment, Lying, Manipulation, Podcast Episode Tagged With: Dealing with passive aggressive behavior, How to deal with someone being passive aggressive

Judgment – The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer

Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.

This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships. Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.

This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.

Judgment truly is the ultimate relationship destroyer. [Read more…]

Filed Under: abuse, Behavior, Beliefs, childhood, Control, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Triggers, Emotional Withdrawal, Guilt, Judgment, Manipulation, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Relationships Tagged With: how to stop judging, Husband is so critical of me, judging in marriage, judging in relationship, judging my wife, Partner is always criticizing me

My Healing Journey from Being an Emotional Abuser

Emotional abuse is the ultimate brainwashing technique. It hides in the form of feigned helpfulness, generosity, compassion, and love. The perpetrator knows how to appear kind and caring while intertwining abusive behavior, causing their victim to become powerless.

Emotional abuse is a method of controlling, manipulating, belittling, and invalidating a person over time. It is often hard to spot in the moment as it can be seen as benign or even “normal” to most observers. But as this behavior is repeated time and time again, the insidious compound effect of this form of covert abuse causes its victims to lose confidence in themselves, stop trusting in their own decisions, feel devalued and unimportant, and blame themselves for being the cause of, and sometimes even deserving, of the abusive behavior.

(for my podcast on emotional abuse, be sure to visit loveandabuse.com)

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Filed Under: Abandonment, Blog article, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Healing, Emotional Withdrawal, Empathy, Judgment, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Relationships, Toxic Behavior, Toxic Thinking Tagged With: Am I emotionally abusive?, Can the emotional abuser be fixed?, Can the emotional abuser change?, How to stop being emotionally abusive, I am emotionally abusve, Is it possible for abusive people to change?

Self-help variety – Pushy people, jealousy, body image, self-worth, self-esteem, intrusive thoughts, and more!

Self-help variety – Pushy people, jealousy, body image, self-worth, self-esteem, intrusive thoughts and more!
Self-help variety – Pushy people, jealousy, body image, self-worth, self-esteem, intrusive thoughts and more!
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Self-help variety – Pushy people, jealousy, body image, self-worth, self-esteem, intrusive thoughts and more!
December 23, 2018

In this episode of The Overwhelmed Brain podcast, I  answer several questions ranging from overcoming jealousy, people that impose their values on you, what affects your self-worth and self-esteem, getting over insecurities about body comments, letting go of intrusive, distressing thoughts, expressing yourself and more!

It’s the variety episode on emotional intelligence. I hope you get a lot of value from it. 

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Insecurity, Jealousy, Judgment, Rejection, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic Thinking, Values Tagged With: distressing thoughts, Getting over insecurity about body comments, intrusive thoughts, Overcoming Jealousy, self help

I’m right you’re wrong: The sides we take that create division and distress

I'm right you're wrong: The sides we take that create division and distress
I'm right you're wrong: The sides we take that create division and distress
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I'm right you're wrong: The sides we take that create division and distress
October 14, 2018

If they’re not like you, you don’t like them. If you’re not like them, they don’t like you.

You have opinions, so do they, but should your differences separate you and cause you so much stress that you would rather lose relationships than accept people for their differences?

This is a full episode with many angles, including social awkwardness and social anxiety.

Filed Under: anger, anxiety, Ask Paul, Communication, Judgment Tagged With: social anxiety, taking sides with people, what to do about social awkwardness

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