Four topics in this episode: A listener calls me smug and superior, a woman with emotional needs is seeing a man with intimacy issues, a listener can’t stop oversharing her life with complete strangers and I talk about what it means to go full no contact from your ex. [Read more…]
What is it with pervasive thoughts about people you don’t particularly care about? You already don’t want to see them in person, so how do you keep them from appearing in your mind?
In segment one of today’s show I read a letter from a woman who can’t get her husband’s ex-wife out of her mind. How do you get rid of consistent, unwelcome thoughts like this?
How can you finally rid yourself of that one persistent thought in your mind’s eye? I have a few suggestions. [Read more…]
Judging others is a sign of something you’re struggling with or haven’t healed from internally. It is anger, sadness, or some other bad feeling that you haven’t yet processed that is coming out and being directed at other people. [Read more…]
Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship, as it tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves. This builds resentment in them and will eventually crumble even the most intimate relationships.
If it doesn’t crumble then it suffers. This article explains how your triggers form your judgments and how your judgments can ruin your life if you don’t learn what to do with them. [Read more…]
Emotional triggers are the surprises that we get when someone we love, or a situation, causes us to have a reaction that we haven’t processed yet. For example if you were yelled at as a child and you attached being yelled at to fear, you might get triggered as an adult when you are near someone yelling.
Triggers are typically childhood beliefs that aren’t necessarily true anymore and need to be addressed to save your relationships. Once you release your old triggers you can view the world from an entirely different place instead of through the eyes of a fearful child. [Read more…]