Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Four topics in this episode: A listener calls me smug and superior, a woman with emotional needs is seeing a man with intimacy issues, a listener can’t stop oversharing her life with complete strangers and I talk about what it means to go full no contact from your ex.
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What is it with pervasive thoughts about people you don’t particularly care about? You already don’t want to see them in person, so how do you keep them from appearing in your mind?
In segment one of today’s show, I read a letter from a woman who can’t get her husband’s ex-wife out of her mind. How do you get rid of consistent, unwelcome thoughts like this?
How can you finally rid yourself of that one persistent thought in your mind’s eye? I have a few suggestions. [Read more…]
Judging others is a sign of something you’re struggling with or haven’t healed from internally. It is anger, sadness, or some other bad feeling that you haven’t yet processed that is coming out and being directed at other people.
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Emotional triggers are the surprises that we get when someone we love, or a situation, causes us to have a reaction that we haven’t processed yet.
For example, if you were yelled at as a child and you attached being yelled at to fear, you might get triggered as an adult when you are near someone yelling.
Triggers are typically childhood beliefs that aren’t necessarily true anymore and need to be addressed to save your relationships. Once you release your old triggers you can view the world from an entirely different place instead of through the eyes of a fearful child.
(after you read this article, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast for more on emotional triggers in relationships)
Unless you thrive on the judgmental stares of others, you probably don’t like to get embarrassed or humiliated.
Sometimes the embarrassments of years gone by can pop up over and over again, especially when people you know keep bringing the humiliating situation back up. If you want to stop reliving the past, or get over the shame, or even overcome what you might consider the unforgivable stuff you may have done, this article is for you. [Read more…]