The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

Is it always necessary to dive into the past to heal old traumas?

How to heal old trauma without diving into the past

Where should you start when it comes to healing old stuff from the past? Should you do a deep dive into your childhood, bringing up all kinds of memories and traumas that you may or may not have repeated to therapists over and over again?

Or should you talk about how it bothers you today and see if someone can help you gain a new perspective? What about skipping over the trauma and just looking at what behavior came out of it?

There’s a path you can take to reverse old emotional triggers just by doing something different to get a different result. If it sounds too easy, then you definitely need to listen to this episode.

The pain you sometimes need to go through to increase your quality of life

The level of happiness and fulfillment you feel on a day to day basis can change based on many factors. One of those factors has to do with the ability to make hard decisions that may involve big changes that you’re not ready to face.

The fear and pain associated with change can often prevent us from doing what we need to do to increase our quality of life.

However, sometimes the lesson is that in order to reach a higher level of satisfaction in life, it might involve scary steps you don’t want to take. 

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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools

Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up.

When you are raised by those who didn’t or couldn’t love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed “broken” tools to deal with situations as an adult. When your emotional toolbox has a bunch of broken tools, you may keep getting the results you don’t want, causing you to stay unhappy.

In this episode, I help you identify those broken tools and what you can do to start utilizing them the right way, or even fixing them altogether.

An Addict’s Mind – Is Suffering Optional – Avoid Healing by Judging Others

Segment 1: The addict has a different perspective of the world according to a recovering addict that sent me a message that I read on this episode. Segment 2: We’re told that suffering is optional. I make an argument against, and for it.

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