The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it

You know that feeling you get when someone does something that surprises you in a bad way but they don’t tell you why they did it?

When you aren’t given the reason for their behavior, you may walk around with that unfinished business feeling. It’s the feeling you get when you really want to move on from an event in your life but just can’t stop obsessing on why they did what they did. 

It’s a tough place to be, but it needs to be resolved if you’re going to move on and enjoy life again. 

Avoiding the Relationship Con Artist

Have you ever wondered why some people get away with things and others don’t?

From what I’ve seen, the more dishonest someone is, the more they seem to get away with bad behavior of some sort.

When an honest person tries to get away with immoral or unethical behavior, they are often caught in the act and have to pay the price. Of course, you might say, “If they’re trying to get away with something, that doesn’t make them very honest then, does it?”

You may be right!

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Are you enabling the bad behavior of other people?

Do you enable behavior that you don’t like? Is it possible that the people that cause you stress do so because you are allowing it in some way?

This episode covers a very important topic that may help you get your power back if you adopt and apply the message.

For more on enabling bad behavior, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast. 

Investigating gut feelings in relationships

When you get that suspicious feeling that a friend, family member or partner is doing something deceptive, do you investigate further? Or do you take their word when they say nothing is going on?

When that gut instinct kicks in, it’s time to listen and perhaps even dig a little deeper just to get to the truth.

Also in this episode, I revisit values and what steps to take to show yourself love, respect and compassion so that you don’t end up in toxic relationships

When your partner sides with their family against you

If your partner’s family is against you and your partner sides with them, what do you do?

When you can’t feel safe in your own relationship because your partner’s priority is his or her own family over you, you may have some hard choices to make. In this episode, Matthew Bivens and I have an emotionally intelligent conversation about an email I received from a woman whose husband shared her personal message to a relative of his.

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