Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships
How many decisions do you make in your life that are actually based on what you want instead of how someone else will respond?
Sometimes it takes a swift kick in the emotional behind to get moving on your decisions so that you can get out of the emotional rut of trying to please others while losing yourself.
One night my girlfriend asked me to grab her lip balm before crawling into bed. I looked around, but couldn’t find where she asked me to look.
She got a little annoyed. I don’t know if she was annoyed that it wasn’t there, or annoyed at me because she thought I missed it. I asked her where else it might be.
She directed me to the bathroom. I looked around but still didn’t see it. She said emphatically, “It should be right there against the wall.”
I looked again… Nothing. So like a good boyfriend, I started searching for it elsewhere.
She told me to give up on my search. She said, “Don’t worry about it. If you can’t find it, I’ll go without.” But that old people-pleaser behavior in me dusted itself off and kicked in to gear. And in that moment, I made it my mission to find it. [Read more…]
Do you enable behavior that you don’t like? Is it possible that the people that cause you stress do so because you are allowing it in some way?
This episode covers a very important topic that may help you get your power back if you adopt and apply the message.
For more on enabling bad behavior, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast.
If they’re not like you, you don’t like them. If you’re not like them, they don’t like you.
You have opinions, so do they, but should your differences separate you and cause you so much stress that you would rather lose relationships than accept people for their differences?
This is a full episode with many angles, including social awkwardness and social anxiety. If you experience social anxiety, look into the S.A.F.E. Empowerment System. It’s like an emergency anxiety toolkit.
The best relationship, job or event in your life flashes by and now you are afraid that’s the best there ever was and it will never be that good again.
When you use the words, “never”, “ever”, and “always”, you set up your present and future for a daily misery that never ends. It’s time to examine the language we use and make sure we are not setting up our reality to be a nightmare.