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The no-win conversation – Lashing out at others – Blame the cheater not yourself

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Does your partner corner you into a no-win situation? Do they ask you questions that make you wrong no matter what you say?

In the first segment, I talk about double binds in relationships, and a couple ways to get out of the no-win questioning that often happens in both non-abusive and abusive relationships.

For segment 2, I discuss lashing out and where it comes from. Are they new emotions that seem to originate in the moment or are they old, stored emotions that derived from a single point in time? [Read more…]

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Does Authenticity Make You Cringe – Getting Past Your Partner’s Past – Building Rapport with People

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When someone expresses themselves to you, do you cringe at the thought of you doing the same? Does the idea of sharing what they’re sharing make you feel uncomfortable? Does it stop you from living life the way you want with authenticity and confidence?

If you feel uncomfortable or shy when someone shares something vulnerable with you, that may be a sign that something could use some healing in you, if you want to explore it. It’s a great way to tell just what you need to work on in yourself.

Full expression can make you feel lighter and stronger at the same time, but it isn’t always easy to show up that authentically.

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Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers

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Your sense of self and identity can dissolve or even be rewritten over years of trauma, abuse, and / or dysfunction.

Dis-integration can happen after a lifetime of challenges that you haven’t yet healed from, causing you to feel scattered and feel like you have no purpose.

When you don’t have a strong emotional foundation, the hard times are harder and you feel beat up and burnt out almost all the time so it’s important to establish who you are. [Read more…]

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The Silent Treatment – How Emotional Withdrawal Dissolves Love

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emotional-withdrawl-silent-treatmentWe’ve all done it.

At one time or another, you’ve withdrawn from someone who set off some sort of emotional trigger in you. You gave them the silent treatment.

The Silent Treatment is an emotional protection mechanism that kicks in when you feel hurt, unsafe or triggered in some way. When someone does or says something that betrays your values, morals, or beliefs, you may withdraw and put on your emotional armor. Sometimes information is so hard to accept or understand that you just need to slip back into your shell and process it. [Read more…]

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The Process of Self-Sabotage – You Don’t Have to Forgive Everyone – Anxiety All The Time

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itunes-thumbnail-customWhy do we fall off course so easily? When you prioritize tasks that take your time away from the things you want to accomplish, you fall back farther and farther until you are no longer making progress. In fact, you might even end up going backwards.

Sometimes you are not in alignment with a bigger vision for yourself. The reason is because you might actually have a value hidden under the surface that you didn’t even know was there. I talk about this self-sabotaging behavior in segment one of this episode. [Read more…]

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