Many people walk around in darkness believing that the only way out is to kill themselves. I don’t believe that. In fact, I think suicide takes away choice which may feel more imprisoning than thinking you have no choice in the first place.
You usually don’t discuss suicidal thoughts with others. And because of that, they fester inside. Often the people around you have no clue what’s going on with you until it’s too late.
I personally don’t believe suicidal thoughts in themselves are necessarily unhealthy*. In fact, I believe they can be a good way to use your brain the way it was designed:
To consider all outcomes of a situation, good, bad and ugly. Your brain appreciates that it has a choice.
What do you do when you have to face a challenge that you believe you’re prepared for, but fail instead?
The feelings of failure can be debilitating, especially when you’ve spent a lot of time and energy working on self-improvement. It can feel like you’ve taken 10 steps backwards. Learning comes with the challenge of applying what you’ve learned, so expect challenges to be just more than you think you’re prepared for.
In the March 5th, 2017 episode of The Overwhelmed Brain, I tackled the ultimate challenge: The General Feeling of Unwell Being. Like a cloud of misery that follows you throughout life.
What inspired that episode was a letter I received from a woman who wrote to me that said she went to her workplace counselor who told her: “You have too many problems, we can’t help you.”
In crisis, is there anything you can do to bring you into a calmer, more peaceful place?
Actually, not usually. In fact, you may have to experience the full impact of the crisis before any calm or comfort can be had. However, you may be able to prepare for crisis so it doesn’t completely debilitate you.