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The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships

Those “think positively” people – Little problems that lead to explosive reactions – What is a toxic person?

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If you’re one of those people who repress negativity and put on a smile to hide your upset, you are likely creating negative emotions in your body that will eventually lead to depression. If you aren’t sure what I mean, listen to segment one of today’s episode.

In segment two, I talk about how the little spats in relationships that lead to massive blowups have an origin. The unspoken words are what cause those big explosions. It’s time to connect emotionally rather than logically to diffuse the emotional bombs before they explode.

For segment three, I answer the question: What is toxic? Do we call people toxic just to avoid our own personal growth? A listener challenges me on the topic.

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One Path to Overcoming Overwhelm

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Does overwhelm and endless worry plague you? Do you ever feel like the plates never stop spinning?

My girlfriend and I went to a parade on July 4th that was so overwhelming we had to leave early. I know… a parade – overwhelming?

Yes.

It was a steam engine parade with nothing but steam powered tractors blowing extremely loud steam whistles. You don’t realize how a loud steam whistle is until you are about 20 feet away from one. When you’re that close and it goes off, you better block your ears or you’ll be sorry.

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Handling negative feedback – Stop worrying about everything – Enabling is disabling – Guilt and apologies

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How do you handle negative feedback? There’s a golden opportunity to sink or swim when someone puts you down. Their comments don’t have to equal pain and a hit on your self-worth or self-esteem.

In fact, maybe it’s possible that the one person you remember putting you down is the very impetus you needed to improve something about yourself. [Read more…]

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Holding on to regrets and resentments – What is healthy communication? – When it can’t get any worse

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What resentments or regrets are you holding on to?

Sometimes years can go by while you keep a firm grasp of what causes you stress simply because you can’t let go of the idea that you could have made different choices in life.

Or, could you have made different choices or taken a different direction in your life? If so, why didn’t you? Sounds like an important topic to discuss. [Read more…]

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Pondering the Choice to Commit Suicide

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Image still from the music video on childhood sexual abuse: “Fiona” by Asha Lightbearer

You usually don’t discuss suicidal thoughts with others. And because of that, they fester inside. Often the people around you have no clue what’s going on with you until it’s too late.

I personally don’t believe suicidal thoughts in themselves are necessarily unhealthy*. In fact, I believe they can be a good way to use your brain the way it was designed:

To consider all outcomes of a situation, good, bad and ugly. Your brain appreciates that it has a choice. 

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